Should I be upset about New Year's Eve Ditch?

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Should I be upset about New Year's Eve Ditch?

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    December 22, 2016 at 5:41 pm #120946
    Should I be upset about New Year's Eve Ditch?

    So, I have been dating this guy for just about two years and we have had our ups and downs but he means the absolute world to me. We got to the same university but when we are not in school, he tends to go to his parents’ house and lives there. Last year I begged him to spend New Year’s eve with me. He refused but a few minutes after midnight, he interupted my tears over leftover xmas chocolates to call me saying “I look forward to another year with you and I promise if we are still together next year, we can spend New Year’s eve together.” It was just the right thing to say to cheer me up. In November and in the beginning of December we discussed plans to spend new year’s together. Now 2016 is almost up, and at my family’s Christmas celebration, he announces yo me that he thinks seeing me that one timr should be enough over our 6 week break from university. New Years Eve is the biggest date night of the year and I have dreamed about getting a midnight kiss since I was a little girl.

    December 22, 2016 at 5:50 pm #120947

    Please give me advice. I don’t know what to do. I feel so alone in my relationship. Has anyone else ever been there? Able yo relate?


    johnp
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    December 23, 2016 at 9:09 am #120948

    Does he understand how much this means to you? It could be that he simply doesn’t understand how important New Year’s Eve is to you, and is not intentionally upsetting you. Perhaps he would change his plans if he knew how you felt about this? If you explain to him how important it is to you, and he still says he isn’t going to be with you, and he doesn’t have a strong reason for his decision, then you should express to him how disappointed you are in him. Only you can decide if you would want to break up with him over this. If he’s otherwise a great guy, and it’s impractical for him to be with you on New Year’s Eve (if he lives very far away, for example), then maybe you need to be more understanding of that? You need to discuss it with him and decide whether he isn’t putting in enough effort, or if you’re asking too much.

    If I were him, I’d be with my girlfriend on NYE as it’s a guaranteed score 😉