Should I contact him or let it go?

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Should I contact him or let it go?

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    anon721
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    February 20, 2017 at 10:13 pm #127599
    Should I contact him or let it go?

    I have been seeing a guy off and on for almost a year. We met online and from the beginning, he always pursued me by e-Mail, text, calling. We clicked, going out every week, even with crazy schedules. We broke up for a few weeks. After a few weeks, he contacted me and apologized, begging for another chance and making things right. We tried again. We had a conversation about it and he made the effort to improve. He told me that the business was taking a lot of his extra time along with his new job (one that would stop the traveling so much). I seem to be the person who is always contacting him first via text. I tell him this bothers me, he listens, but doesn’t really change for that long. I haven’t heard from him…He was to call me, but got stuck at work. He told me he would call the next day but it has been 10 days. Should I contact him or assume these are my walking papers? Last time he went MIA, his mom was in the hospital. Please help. Don’t want to be the chaser.


    Insecure
    Participant
    February 21, 2017 at 6:00 am #127605

    It sucks being the chaser. I now feel bad for guys more than ever. I am too in a situation similar than yours. If he really wants you, he will find you. Wait for him to call you or text you.


    juliaxxxo
    Participant
    February 21, 2017 at 4:41 pm #127724

    I would just wait for him to text or call you.

    prettynormalish
    prettynormalish
    Participant
    February 21, 2017 at 9:42 pm #127761

    I think you can reach out but you have to play it cool and just say hi. If a guy thinks you’re going to say “where have you been” or “you hurt my feelings” he won’t reach out so sometimes it’s good for the women to show him she’s not angry. That being said you may get a tepid reply or none at all and then you know where you stand. I’m a big fan of the Mars/Venus books and the one on dating has good advice on this topic.

    merd
    merd
    Participant
    February 22, 2017 at 10:30 am #127803

    Hmm from a man’s pov it would seem like he’s not really interested in you at this moment at least. I guess you can’t always be the chaser so let it go naturally and if he texts you then see where that goes from there. Do not contact him would be my answer. If he wants to, he’s gonna reach out.


    GenericProblems
    Participant
    February 22, 2017 at 11:15 am #127818

    He probably needs space, I’ve sorta been in the same situation and I let them have their personal space and they finally reached back to me.

    troubled14
    troubled14
    Participant
    February 22, 2017 at 3:04 pm #127857

    I’d recommend you fill him in on the situation, along with showing how it affects you. It might be a wise idea to mention the fact that he doesn’t seem to be changing as this could act as a wake up call for him.


    sprotz
    Participant
    February 22, 2017 at 3:15 pm #127862

    Nope


    anon721
    Participant
    February 24, 2017 at 8:47 am #128086

    Thank you all for your honest advice. I really do appreciate it. I have decided to leave him alone.


    hurt101
    Participant
    February 24, 2017 at 3:06 pm #128228
    Reply To: Should I contact him or let it go?

    I would let it go and not text him anymore!


    Lkn4Peace
    Participant
    February 25, 2017 at 12:29 pm #128309
    Reply To: Should I contact him or let it go?

    Been through it i would say let it go but i lnow it’s easier said than done


    exff22
    Participant
    February 27, 2017 at 9:01 am #128308
    Reply To: Should I contact him or let it go?

    And if he texts you after this long period of silence, don’t answer. He wants you to be there at his convenience.


    Melanie B
    Participant
    March 4, 2017 at 10:34 pm #129085
    Reply To: Should I contact him or let it go?

    If he’s really into you I think he’d make the effort in trying to contact you.


    MissPatikan
    Participant
    March 6, 2017 at 3:14 am #129112
    Reply To: Should I contact him or let it go?

    Let go


    Dani
    Participant
    March 7, 2017 at 2:31 am #129231
    Reply To: Should I contact him or let it go?

    i think if he really would want to talk to you then he would make an effort

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