Should I continue dating this girl?

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Should I continue dating this girl?

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    Xerxesb
    Xerxesb
    Participant
    December 18, 2016 at 2:19 am #120499
    Should I continue dating this girl?

    I”ve been dating this girl for two months now. We haven’t had sex or anything yet. She doesn’t go out with me much and when she does she only wants me to give her a ride from her workplace to home.

    She doesn’t flirt with me at all but she’s ok with sexting. It is very weird to me. She doesn’t even like to talk over the phone.

    The last thing which worries me is that she has loaned money from me twice. once 200 bucks and the other time $300. The last time I gave her money, her attitude changed a little and she became a bit more kind to me. I have told her that I am serious in my relationships and If things goes well I would definitely look for marriage.

    I’m having doubts about her liking me, She doesn’t show any emotions at all. It’s me who flirts all the time. The only time she flirts is when we are sexting in the middle of the night. I have asked her to come over but she says shes not that type of a girl who has sex with guys in a month.

    Xerxesb
    Xerxesb
    Participant
    December 18, 2016 at 2:20 am #120500

    Update:
    I’ve been thinking about breaking up with her. I don’t know what should I do. We’re both 27. She’s my second girlfriend. I’m sure if I lose her I won’t find any other girl. I am afraid of being lonely. I’ve been depressed because of loneliness for a long time.
    Also, I’m not sure if she gives my money back,,

    What should I do? Should I giver her more chance and keep on dating her or should I break up?


    CuriousCat1223
    Participant
    December 19, 2016 at 4:58 am #120516

    First sort out the financial part. If you cannot trust a person with money, how can you trust them with your life? That sounds very odd to me. Maybe talk about this first before taking any other steps.


    Dejvid
    Participant
    December 19, 2016 at 7:36 pm #120652

    Do not I mean DO NOT, NEVER give her money unless its serious. Women can be evil. Ask yourself how much do you truly know her? Think about it. Go out with her ( go at a party ) Offer the ride no problem. But dont make her believe that she can use you. It seems like she is doing a very good job using you. My father married at 39 I dont see how its too late for you.


    somethingkewl
    Participant
    December 20, 2016 at 10:57 am #120706

    Get the money thing straight, then move forward

    JDP96
    JDP96
    Participant
    December 24, 2016 at 3:13 pm #120985

    Okay so first of all, you will not be alone, you will find somebody for you DO NOT GIVE UP. Second, She does not seem interested in you, and even if she is, she does not seem like the girl you want to marry. You loan her money and she doesn’t pay you back even when she has a job, why would you want to marry someone like that. She most likely sexts you to keep you interested instead of having sex to keep you interested. Remember that you are not the only one that is in charge of the relationship, it’s a two way street. She has to show some sort of affection towards you, and should be there to emotionally support you. I say move on, don’t be sad. You are young and your world is filled with many beautiful women who will love you like you’ve never been loved before.


    datingnewbie
    Participant
    December 24, 2016 at 7:07 pm #121016

    It sounds like she’s using you to get what she wants, it doesn’t sound healthy-you know you best so before you get too invested I suggest you take a step back and list the pros and cons of being with her then move forward from there


    pmag
    Participant
    December 25, 2016 at 2:23 am #121026

    She wants the attention but is otherwise ambivalent. Or unusually shy.


    Larmor19
    Participant
    January 24, 2017 at 4:44 pm #124312

    Kindness and wanting to help her out with money is a noble act on your part but if you are the one doing all the giving then I suggest you move on. I am 53 and single and trust me you will find someone else.

    richiro
    richiro
    Participant
    January 25, 2017 at 2:00 pm #124471
    Reply To: Should I continue dating this girl?

    drop her. yo don’t even have a relationship (you do nothing romantic together.. she just gets rides with you and takes yor money).
    sexting is not a relationship!

    drop her. she’s using you for rides and money.


    Dave
    Participant
    January 29, 2017 at 12:42 am #124874
    Reply To: Should I continue dating this girl?

    Get your money back before anything


    SUPERBARRY
    Participant
    January 29, 2017 at 5:31 pm #124905
    Reply To: Should I continue dating this girl?

    You’re being played, end it.


    jav100
    Participant
    January 30, 2017 at 12:11 am #124910
    Reply To: Should I continue dating this girl?

    I believe is not interested in you romantically. Two months is a long time.

    Sounds like you have a business relationship above all else (lending money, giving rides)

    Xerxesb
    Xerxesb
    Participant
    January 30, 2017 at 9:28 am #124878
    Reply To: Should I continue dating this girl?

    Thanks to all of your for replying. I finally broke up with her two days ago, although I did not get my money back. Her financial status was not that good and I told her that she shouldn’t pay me back my money and she could accept it as a gift.

    I am most certainly not going to date anyone anymore