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BlueroseParticipantOctober 27, 2014 at 6:14 am #66584
I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost a year now. The other day we had an argument about him sometimes not being considerate enough towards me. I asked him to tell me what are his feelings for me until this point in our relationship. He said he cares very much,but he doesn’t feel is love yet, because he was really hurt in the past and he doesn’t want to get hurt again and it’s harder for him to get fully involved. This was exactly how i felt in the beginning of our relationship so i get that, but now i feel i’m starting to like him more and more so after we had that discussion i feel awful that he doesn’t feel the same. My question is what should i do? I do want to be with him and i’m starting to get deeper feelings for him, but at the same time i don’t want to pursue something that might never come. I need some advice.
ponchoParticipantOctober 27, 2014 at 8:31 am #66591
He is more likely telling the truth that he doesnt feel the love yet, that saying it doesnt mean all is lost. Im not sure how much time you two are together. If you see each other a lot, he more likely senses unwanted pressure (insecurities,neediness?) from you and his natural reactions are ‘being not considerate towards you.”
I may suggest that you back away a little, give him some space and see what happens.
TB55ParticipantOctober 31, 2014 at 3:18 pm #66917
I agree with Poncho, give him some space. I know it’s hard to hear that someone you thought doesn’t have the same feelings you do or you think they would after almost a year of dating. One thing I know is that being hurt by someone is really hard to recover from easily. Also, if you give him that space it gives you space, as well. It can be true, absence makes the heart grow stronger. I wish you all the luck with your relationship.
t9700ParticipantNovember 2, 2014 at 12:31 am #66946
I agree give him some space, we women tend to be to emotional and men hate that specially at the beginning.
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