should i ignore my feelings?

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should i ignore my feelings?

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    gatasucia
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    December 10, 2016 at 9:08 pm #119696
    should i ignore my feelings?

    I just met a man who seemed really nice, good looking and we were hitting it off. I was interested in meeting him again just for a lunch date, and we were shaking hands and saying our goodbyes…when he rubbed his finger against my palm. To me that is such a sleazebag thing to do and i still shudder every time I think about it. Should I try and get it and give him a chance or trust my feelings of mild repulsion? I’m not interested in rushing into anything, but he seems to have other ideas.

    starryeyedprincess
    starryeyedprincess
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    December 10, 2016 at 11:30 pm #119698

    In my opinion it would just be best to clarify what your intentions with him are.Be honest and forward telling him what kind of relationship you’re looking for and stress what kind of pace you’re comfortable with.If he tries to urge you to move at a pace faster than what you’re comfortable with drop him like a hot rock and move on.Good luck!


    josephddiazz
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    December 28, 2016 at 10:46 am #121224

    I think you should just tell him what you’re looking for and how do you want to take things: slowly. If he’s OK with it, then you’ll be fine! Good luck!


    Anonymous
    December 29, 2016 at 6:16 pm #121283

    There was a good book I read this past year, the title I will have to edit out because not appropriate for the forum. The book was called “F**** Feelings”. It was written I believe by a clinical psychologist who says that feelings really are overrated and sometimes we need to take our feelings not so serious because often they are irrational. I wouldn’t think too much into it, you could ask him what his intentions were or tell him don’t do that again because it gives you bad vibes. Sometimes Ignoring feelings is a good thing.


    rachaelblackmore
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    December 30, 2016 at 5:38 am #121294

    hmmm, I think we should always go with our gut feeling. If that one action made you shudder I’m wondering if there was something else your intuition was picking up on? I’m interested in the book Techwarrior is referring to. Our feelings can be irrational, but usually they are telling us something and it is pretty much impossible to ignore them, try as we might! It’s a good idea to maybe ask him about it, or maybe see him again and see how you feel – it might be different next time.


    bevhillz1223
    Participant
    December 30, 2016 at 10:20 am #121299

    I would go with your gut feelings


    Jcbk003
    Participant
    December 30, 2016 at 10:50 am #121300

    Trust your gut feelings they are usually right