Should I message him? Help!!

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Should I message him? Help!!

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    fairy0018
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    December 18, 2015 at 6:30 pm #90302
    Should I message him? Help!!

    So basically Iv’e started chatting to a guy at work who’s in a different department to me, we have just caught each other around work or on our break, he’s a really sweet guy and we get on well…the thing is as we work in different bits its always by chance that we can chat! I’ve got him on Facebook, should I start chatting to him on there or just leave it? and if I do what’s a good way to start the conversation without looking too forward? so stuck on what to do!


    Confusedgirl30
    Participant
    December 18, 2015 at 7:25 pm #90310

    I would possibly think of something to do with work? Simple question then see how they reply back to you, make it friendly but not to formal, or if they mentioned they were going somewhere or doing something ask how it went, that’s how I would start it 🙂


    Anonymous
    December 21, 2015 at 8:54 am #90308

    Hi – if you’re on FB together anyway, then yes, you might as well message him. Send him a really casual message. If you don’t work on the weekend maybe say something like, “Hey, how’s it going? Excited for the sunshine this weekend!” If he’s interested he’ll hopefully ask you out. If he replies without asking a question back at you then he’s probably not interested and you don’t have to feel embarrassed about being rejected.


    RobertB
    Participant
    December 21, 2015 at 5:12 pm #90389

    Of course you should message him. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. There’s not much risk here, sure if he doesn’t reply then that’s just how it is unfortunately, but if he does you win! If you don’t message him you guys could be in this little ‘deadlock’ for quite some time. As far as subject goes, i agree with Aries’ post, its quite a smart topic.


    fairy0018
    Participant
    December 22, 2015 at 12:56 pm #90423

    Thanks for the advice guys! I messaged him last night and he was very chatty, I went to bed though so he said he’d speak to me today at work as we were both in all day! It was so busy though we didn’t really get a chance 🙁 do I carry on the Facebook convo this evening or wait for him to talk this time? considering he’s quite a shy guy…


    Relationup
    Participant
    December 22, 2015 at 5:25 pm #90431

    This is one of the most exciting and at the same time, nerve-racking parts of a new relationship. You want to reach out to him without coming across as too forward and its hard to balance those two. Carrying on the FB messaging is pretty harmless at this stage in the game, however I want to warn you to make sure that you don’t get “FB-Zoned”. This means that if you continue to message through FB only, you run the risk of not allowing the relationship to flourish organically on its own in the real world aka your work. I would encourage you to reach out again maybe once or twice through FB, but after that really make an attempt to chat at work. Come up with something funny that happens at work so you can share the same silly joke. Find out what makes your work silly and use this as a catalyst for your conversations together. Take a look at “The Office” for inspiration on work related running jokes. Be patient and this may turn into something really exciting! 🙂


    mharu1819
    Participant
    December 23, 2015 at 11:53 am #90454

    Yes! you should really go for it! but take your time to confess. don’t ended up like me. Good luck and YOU GO GIRL!