SHOULD I REACH OUT?

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SHOULD I REACH OUT?

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    HeAboutToLoseMe
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    September 20, 2017 at 11:38 pm #149817
    SHOULD I REACH OUT?

    About a month ago met this guy online who just seemed too good to be true (extremely good looking, humble and wanted a long term relationship). Started talking for a few days and even without meeting, he wanted us to start dating and start something serious. Met briefly and there was some connection and the next evening, he offered to watch a movie at his place. I got wine and pizza and it went great. We started making out and getting physical but I didn’t wanna go all the way and pushed back a little and explained that if we were to get physical, I would develop very serious feelings and was afraid to get hurt. Next few days, he started texting less and we sort of lost contact. The problem is – I really really like this guy, like I’ve never liked anyone before. I texted him a few weeks ago but he didn’t respond back. Do I give up? Or do I message him and tell him exactly how I feel so that I can at least have a closure?

    Lance
    Lance
    Participant
    September 26, 2017 at 2:46 am #150337

    Honestly, IF he wanted a serious relationship and he liked you , then you putting the brakes on a little should not have stopped him from speaking to you or generally interacting with you .However when people only briefly hang out, ( week/ two weeks, month or whatever ) its hard to always know whats going on in some ones life, that we don’t know about. He might just be busy, or something big has happened and he can’t focus on you right now. Having said that a quick” sorry Im busy but have not forgotten about you ” txt takes or phone call takes less then 30 seconds….less effort could not be taken.

    Personally it sounds like you liked him more, and he was trying to get out of seeing you again ( because he did not get what he wanted).

    If you feel like you need “closure”. I would ask to met him again, and explain how you feel in person . You can txt if you want, but texting is a very flippant. Or call him at lest .That way you know you made the effort.


    xDylanx2000
    Participant
    October 29, 2017 at 3:21 pm #154394

    Similar place

    micaoj
    micaoj
    Participant
    December 4, 2017 at 1:07 pm #158466

    I think he was just trying to get u to bed….


    confusedandinlove24
    Participant
    December 4, 2017 at 5:57 pm #158544

    It seems like he only wanted sex from you. The best advice I could give you is to move on, it may be hard, but he does not have the best intentions with you


    xxaccxx
    Participant
    December 5, 2017 at 11:20 pm #159171

    It just seems like he only wanted sex from you , sadly. If he cares about progressing to a relationship, he would respect your boundaries and text you to show that he still cares / has interest in you. I say you dodged a bullet.


    HeAboutToLoseMe
    Participant
    December 6, 2017 at 3:18 am #159175

    Thx so much. I think you were absolutely right!


    HeAboutToLoseMe
    Participant
    December 6, 2017 at 8:47 am #159176
    Reply To: SHOULD I REACH OUT?

    @micajo – yep! Sounds about right.


    HeAboutToLoseMe
    Participant
    December 6, 2017 at 8:48 am #159177
    Reply To: SHOULD I REACH OUT?

    @xxacx – I definitely dodged that bullet. Phew. Looking back at this post I think to myself wtf was I thinking. But it could be a lesson for someone else in the same situation