Should I stay close to him?

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Should I stay close to him?

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    Ron
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    January 30, 2017 at 11:07 pm #125057
    Should I stay close to him?

    Me and my ex bf broke up because he didn’t want to do long distance (he had a bad experience before). We were together for only 2mo but I never liked anyone as I did him.
    Then some months after I left, his ex got back in town and they dated again. I was sad, but also moved on.
    Me and him didn’t speak for 1,5 year, until HE broke the NC out of the blue. I was polite and answered back. He then said he was very happy that I found someone else bc in his words I deserve happiness more than anyone he knows.
    He was still dating that same girl, so I kept some distance though we would text each other sometimes. And eventually we both got single again.
    We now chat a lot, even about our past and how great it was.
    I’ll be back to town in 3mo. So I asked him if he’s over his ex, and he said he’s alright but that it takes time to be over a 3y relationship. So what’s going on? Am I being used as a confidence booster or does he like me? I don’t wanna get hurt. Should I stay close to him?

    • This topic was modified 8 months, 3 weeks ago by  Ron.
    richiro
    richiro
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    January 31, 2017 at 12:17 pm #125132

    i would imagine he likes you. but it’s clear that his mind is not on getting with somebody right now – as he said straight out – he’s not over her and is working on that. so the people may be right – but the timing is not.

    keep it toned down for now and keep talking and when he’s ready and you’re ready and both single – then you can talk or consider that. but to try and get in when he’s not ready – BAD IDEA. likelihood is it will fail. Wait until its the right time and the chances of success go incredibly upwards.


    Ron
    Participant
    January 31, 2017 at 5:37 pm #125231

    It’s funny you talked about timing, because he said that to me once good relationships have chemistry and right timing and that we had one but not the other.

    I think you are right. We might be meant to be, but not yet, and I shouldn’t try and force it. It needs to happen when it happens if it happens. 🙂

    Thank you very much!!!

    • This reply was modified 8 months, 3 weeks ago by  Ron.