Slept with best friend

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Slept with best friend

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    lovechocolate
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    March 26, 2015 at 1:47 am #76048
    Slept with best friend

    I am hoping someone can give me some advice as I am hurting quite a bit

    I met a guy online about a year and a half ago, and we became friends. Very good friends, best friends. We always kind of flirted with each other and probably started doing that a lot about 6 months ago

    Eventually 2 weeks ago we went out one night and got drunk and ended up sleeping together. He stayed the whole weekend. Then he acted like it was a mistake and that he shouldn’t have done it. When he said it was a mistake and he didn’t want a relationship I believed him.

    So I went ok, he doesn’t want to continue and a few days later I told him I was going to go out that night with some other guy (a first meeting) . He didn’t say much.

    The next night we went out again dancing , and really I wasn’t expecting anything to happen given what he had said about not wanting anything. But we did and it was even more passionate than before. He was all over me from the moment I saw him before we even left to go out


    lovechocolate
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    March 26, 2015 at 1:57 am #76049

    CONTINUED!

    BUT I don’t know if it was because I went out with someone else and he was jealous

    Then 2 nights ago he rings me up and tells me how much he likes me, how awesome I am and that I am 98% of what he is looking for in a girlfriend (yeah thanks) He was going on about how amazing I am etc. He was telling me ‘I like you so much I like you sooooo much, you are awesome, amazing, you are everything I am looking for … It’s almost there, maybe it is there? I don’t know why you are not, its at 98% etc etc and then he was saying how hot I am (I’m not hot, just hot to him) and how he has probably never had such amazing sex. Without going into detail..

    Then yesterday he texts me that he has been talking to some other girl for a few months and that he wants to pursue a relationship with her and that our sex has to stop. . Stab to the heart. But that he still wants to be friends.


    lovechocolate
    Participant
    March 26, 2015 at 8:37 am #76050

    Continued!!

    This guy isn’t some random, we have been best friends, then slow burn , then recently got sexual. I can’t even bear the thought of him being with someone else. Be friends?

    So I told him how I felt. That I am hurt and that he shouldn’t have slept with me if he had known he was meeting up with someone else during that time. I am not some random chick, he has told me many times how much he loves me and I am his best friend .

    So I am hurt but I am numb. How should I have handled this?
    Just like he said the previous weekend he said now that the sex had to stop. But then when went out again we had sex, so he is not very sure about what he wants it seems

    Then I texted that what I am supposed to be friends with you and your random girlfriend?? I said I don’t even want to meet her, then he texted that I am ‘crazy’

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