anonymousDude425ParticipantJune 11, 2017 at 12:23 pm #139158
I’ve hung out with a girl on the weekends for about 3 months now as ‘just friends’ . We spend our time one-on one and gotten dinner afterwards a few times too. I’ve been lying to myself pretending I don’t have feelings for her, because being all casual about it means I get to spend the day with her. I am planning on telling her how I feel the next time we meet. I am fully aware this will bring an end to our ‘just friends’ arrangement, but at this point I’m pretty sure I’m in love with her. She’s been the one asking to hang out most of the time, but the last two weeks she’s been relatively unresponsive online and too busy to meet. I hope she hasn’t started dating some other guy, but it’s very likely. Am I doing the right thing by telling her now? Or is it just too late. Thanks.
jamieshawParticipantJune 12, 2017 at 4:50 am #139182
Just tell her that you can’t see her anymore unless its in a romantic fashion.
richiroParticipantJune 12, 2017 at 11:19 am #139247
What signs have you seen telling you she feels that way about you?
Typically – if you are holding back and are at the edge that you must “burst out” your feelings and have no idea how she’ll respond – not a good sign.
However, it’s always best to be direct and ask and find out. (well, depending on what theory you subscribe to) – but apparently this appeals to women and is attractive (for a man to have the confidence to not be afraid to ask them out, risk rejection but feel enough to still do it). I’ve heard a LOT of this lately from different females for some reason.
The other theory subscribes to being “mysterious” etc. etc. so it just depends on what theory you subscribe to. But from ti appears to me, you’ve been doing the “cool, mysterious, don’t let on” thing for a while now and your’ not where you want to be… so…
BellaroseParticipantJune 15, 2017 at 3:43 pm #139598
She could be doing many things and just busy with life, there is no way of knowing if she is dating someone else. At this point you have two options, either remain silent about your feelings or be honest. What harm will come from expressing how you feel?
richiroParticipantJune 15, 2017 at 6:02 pm #139632
there’s plenty of harm in putting your neck out for rejection – why can’t women understand that? *shakes head*
anyway the TRUTH is… you will experience less harm over less time if you are more direct and stick your neck out, then wondering, lingering, going up and down for years on this….
but make no mistake .. putting yourself out there CAN DO HARM!
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