So there’s this girl at work who I m  pretty sure likes me..

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So there’s this girl at work who I m pretty sure likes me..

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  • n3000
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    April 2, 2017 at 8:42 am #131815
    So there’s this girl at work who I m pretty sure likes me..

    A few weeks ago i was out and bumped into her boss, who randomly told me this girl liked me. So i messaged her on the work system got her number and ask her out. She said yes, but for various reasons on both sides we couldn’t meet up for a few weeks. Also as we work in different departments we haven’t had the chance to bump into each other and chat properly again, but we’d been txting enthusiasticly, and have caught each others glance in passing a couple of times with a small smile (that smile when someone likes you..I think).
    Anyway we where meant to go for a drink last friday, and she suddenly cancelled just before with no explination asking if we could rearrange to another date. A few days later she txted me that she felt uncomfortable because we worked in the same office, especially because she was new and didnt usually date people at work. She did finsh the txt saying i should come chat to her when ever i m in her department…. but i m very aware not to get in the friend zoned?


    n3000
    Participant
    April 2, 2017 at 8:47 am #131816

    Sorry extra long…just want to put the situation in full context
    Anyway i get the feeling that she just got a bit freaked out incase it didnt work out, she being new, me more senior and doesn’t want to mess her work situation up? We dont get that much face to face contact, but I m usually pretty good at reading all the signals, having had many girlfriends and dates. The only reason i m questioning the situation is that when we’re person to person i get a really good vibe and the body language you usually associate with someone fancying you, and those good tensions and vibes don’t come around that often… Hopefully i m not being blind and she’s just not interested? I m also very aware of not being that creepy guy at work, which i m sure i m not at the moment. Something tells me to not give up on this one, too just play it cool, be a bit more distant, be patient, a gentleman and when we cross paths to charm her by being friendly, flirty and fun.

    What do you guys think ?


    Oldscutlass88
    Participant
    April 6, 2017 at 10:32 pm #132433

    Possibly try to setup a group get together. Bowling or something with a bunch of people from work that you both know and invite her. I think this way she possibly wouldn’t think of it as a formal “date” but just hanging out getting to know you. Also she hopefully wouldn’t be uncomfortable because there would be other people there she knows there.