adviceseeker43ParticipantOctober 23, 2016 at 5:37 pm #114979
So I’ve been seeing a girl off and on for the last 10 months. We have never been “official” because she is unsure what she wants. Also, she has been having problems of her own (eating disorder 3 years ago, family drama, and suicide attempt 2 months ago). However, I have made it clear that she is who I want to be with.
In my opinion we’ve had “sex” 3 times. Before this, she considered herself a virgin. After this, she considers herself a virgin. First off, I am aware that different lesbians have different views of what sex actually is, but to her it’s more than just physical. While we were having sex the last time, something in her demeanor changed. We stopped & she said something was missing. She then told me she didn’t want to reciprocate which obviously hurt my ego. We both cried and decided we should just be friends. Since then, she’s said things like “I miss you more than just as a friend” & she wants to talk about “us” again. Can this “problem” be overcome?
Riley89ParticipantFebruary 17, 2017 at 4:20 am #127387
It sounds to me as if she’s npt certain of where she stands in her life in general, not just in this relatipnship. She’s been in a though aituation lately you tell us, which would explain a lot. Be patient and talk with her about you and where you both stand as far as a relationship is, concerned, maybe she.will end up talking about the last time you had sex and you’ll find out more about her current problems with it. Obviously you should not force yourself to tolerate more drama than you think you can handle, but if you want to get through this, know that it will not be easy.
Also it sounds to me like maybe she wasn’t ready to have sex at all and she stopped the situation because of that.
richiroParticipantFebruary 17, 2017 at 1:10 pm #127478
the problem can be overcome.. but she will hae to be willing and put in committed effort to change in reciprocating to her partner (aka you).
don’t go by her words (anybody can say what they think or want to do) but her actions. they will tell you the truth about what shes willing to do and not.
so.. don’t take her word for it (and assume b/c she says she misses you she’ll do everything and fix it) – see if she actually starts fixing it if you try again.
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