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bizie.beParticipantDecember 31, 2013 at 12:10 am #45483
Alright….there is a guy that I works in my building that I am interested in. We haven’t really had the opportunity to interact face to face with each other. However, I know who he is and I know he knows who I am. Our matchmaking coworkers have been at work and all I’ve heard about the last month is that I need to meet him. They have even took liberties to team up with the his immediate coworkers and they think its a good idea as well.
I’ve heard my number has been given and was told that this guy feels like it is unnatural to call me before we have actually met. Problem is— we are both on the shy side I think. We’ve seen each other at work but always at times where it is not opportune to officially introduce ourselves or chat.
The single girl stalker in me noticed he does have a facebook. Would it be weird to message him or request to be friends? Part of me says it is kinda stalkerish. However, the other part says– why not? I don’t have anything to loose. Thoughts?
rimiahujaParticipantJanuary 1, 2014 at 5:44 am #45490
I think you should talk frankly and straight.
agk8450ParticipantJanuary 2, 2014 at 6:52 pm #45669
Be professional about it. You are not in highschool anymore so go and talk to him in person. Just ask him how his day was or if you see if getting coffee or eating lunch, ask him what he is eating. Small questions can lead to big conversations and at the end ask for a number to talk later.
brayden_95ParticipantJanuary 3, 2014 at 10:07 am #45680
Really, you cant go wrong by any way that you contact him. You just have to do it and be calm and confident.
blankcanaryParticipantJanuary 5, 2014 at 1:13 am #45832
It would be better to talk to him in person. Talking behind a screen can ease some tension and stress, but it may give him the wrong impression.
Peanutbear3ParticipantJanuary 5, 2014 at 9:23 pm #45836
I think it would be weird to add him if you haven’t even talked. Can your mutual friends not arrange drinks after work or something when the 2 of you can chat properly?
ssa123ParticipantJanuary 12, 2014 at 2:29 am #45911
Talk in person first – even just a hey, how are you every now and then. Once you’ve exchanged a few friendly small talk conversations, then its ok to move things online.
bizie.beParticipantJanuary 19, 2014 at 12:20 am #46145
I was able to meet him last week. We were both sitting at the same table for a meeting, so I started some small talk and introduced myself. We talked for a bit and then had to stop for the meeting. I unfortunately didn’t see him the rest of the day.
I then thought “why not?” and added him on facebook later that night. He accepted a few days later.
It does not appear he is a big facebooker. So I guess my question is what next? I feel like I initiated talking/introduction in person. I also think the friend request was a bit of a “green light” that I am interested in getting to know him. Do I make an attempt to message him on there? Ask him out? Or is the ball in his court and if he is interested he will act on it?April 7, 2014 at 6:43 pm #46147
Can you make a group date with a few co-workers (including him) so that way it takes the social pressure off of being a “date”?April 7, 2014 at 6:43 pm #46206
Yes! Facebook is a totally cool way to start interactions. Obviously you will want to move it offline when possible, but to start I would say go right aheadApril 7, 2014 at 6:44 pm #46207
Yes! Facebook is a totally cool way to start interactions. Obviously, you will eventually want to turn it into a date, but to start out I would say go for it!
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