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MelodyParticipantJune 14, 2016 at 6:24 pm #103357
My boyfriend cheated on me multiple times in the first few months of the relationship. Exchanging nudes with this one girl in particular, flirting, leading her on. We’ve been together for 13 months and I just found out about this in April, from looking through his messages on Facebook. He’s also been VERY inappropriate when talking to girls, stating that he’s trying to get laid (sent to the girl that lives upstairs from him), he’s horny, claimed he was a porn star to another, and a whole bunch of other stuff. He’s also a compulsive liar.
I’ve been trying to rebuild trust with him, but it’s going to take a while.
We don’t live together but I sleep over his current place every weekend. I can’t live with him as I’m a student and have no source of steady income.
Recently, he’s discussed moving out and getting a place with his friend, and his friend’s friend that happens to be a girl.
Would I be in the wrong to break up with him if he decides to? Would it be selfish?
MelodyParticipantJune 14, 2016 at 6:25 pm #103358
I already deal with the trust issues as it is, then I’d have to worry about him being alone with this woman that I don’t even know…
LostinLove007ParticipantJune 20, 2016 at 6:03 pm #103721
Trust me, you can find better. I just got out of a breakup and you need to break it off. I forgave my boyfriend and all he did in return was break up with me in the end. You have a forgiving heart and he will take advantage of that and keep doing that to you. Plus if you all are intimate, it would be scary to know what disease/stds he would spread back to you, from his cheatings.
angiesodParticipantJune 21, 2016 at 4:48 am #103723
I think you sould seriously consider breaking up with the guy!!he is obviously not apreciating you and he haw a behavioral pattern !!he cheats !!and for you to be able to see these not too subtle moves on others girls you can imagine what you still havent learned!!!
blondie4546ParticipantJune 21, 2016 at 8:29 am #103752
He needs to earn your trust – getting a female room mate is not how to achieve this! If he won’t back down then maybe this isn’t the right relationship for either of you…
LostinLove007ParticipantJune 23, 2016 at 12:59 am #103917
Don’t put yourself in this situation girl! 😀 (hugs)
happypotatoParticipantJune 23, 2016 at 1:43 am #103919
He doesn’t deserve you. It’s good to break up with him. Make yourself to become more better person. Good people will find u and love you.
hexedroninParticipantJune 23, 2016 at 3:22 am #103922
I agree. I also have trust issues, and I was really hurting myself by staying with the wrong person. if you are the one trying to rebuild trust instead of HIM trying to rebuild trust with you, it’s time to move on.
AnonymousJune 23, 2016 at 2:25 pm #103939
Have you ever considered that he may have a certain level of sex addiction? This guy needs some help! You are trying to build trust with a guy whose actions are telling you he is far from the monogamous type. He is who he is. Let him be that. The issue here is you not accepting that this is the kind of guy he is. The more you fantasize that he might change and be different by “building trust”, the more you will get hurt. So the issue here is you, not him. Something in you is choosing a man who does not have the capacity to love and care for you the way you need. Leave the guy alone and let him go mess up someone else’s life. Value your precious heart enough to only hand it over to a man who truly cares about it through his words AND actions. I promise….guys like that do exist everywhere, you just have to know you deserve it and set those standards. So do whatever you gotta do, to get away from him when you can.
coldturkeyParticipantJune 24, 2016 at 6:31 pm #104052
You can’t build trust with someone who doesn’t care what he does in the relationship.You can’t build trust with a cheater…period.You need to get the heck out of this relationship.You deserve so much better.
brainyParticipantJune 28, 2016 at 9:39 am #104069
What do you want with him? He’s a liar and a cheater and I think you’re better off alone than with a jerk like that. Sorry, I don’t want to come off as blunt but the way you describe him makes me angry 🙁
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