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[Rachel88Participant]

December 9, 2014 at 9:19 am #68912

Views on FWB situation please!

I dated a man I met on a dating app. We got on really well, had a lot in common, had fun etc. but in both our minds it was always a casual thing. To cut a long story short, misinterpretation over messages meant that he got the impression I was wanting more than just a casual relationship with him, and when I tried to rectify it what I said just made things worse (I’m not good at getting my point across clearly over messages!).

We haven’t spoken for almost 2 weeks now, but he’s one of the only men I’ve felt comfortable to actually meet in person and the only one I’ve slept with since dating again. As soon as you mention to men that you don’t want anything serious right now it becomes a bit odd and creepy, and I don’t want to be in a situation where I feel like I’m sleeping around. Basically I need to know is it too late to make things clear with him after not speaking for this long? And will suggesting a FWB type of situation to him just make me seem sleazy, or even desperate, now?

[lopazeParticipant]

January 7, 2015 at 7:51 pm #70111

I would just move on, besides you haven’t been knowing him very long. Seems like you just had some fun together. A friends with benefits situation usually doesn’t work well with most people because someone will catch feelings after a while.

[scottoParticipant]

January 18, 2015 at 1:17 am #71204

I have to agree. In addition, besides what lopaze said, FWB is bad because it prevents you from committing to something that can actually lead to something. Think about it, you have an awesome first date with someone, then leave the date and go to your FWB situation because its comfortable, now if that first date actually leads to a serious relationship you soiled your first date – or perhaps tainted your mindset by having sex with someone else that prevented the relationship from developing in the first place