Wait or cut my losses?


Wait or cut my losses?

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    May 25, 2016 at 2:16 am #101286
    Wait or cut my losses?

    So, I met this guy online and went on a few dates with him. I thought we were hitting it off great, having fun, getting to know each other. I was just at a point where I was ready to hope that maybe I could have a relationship when he texts me after about a week of no contact and tells me he’s just “not feeling it.” This, of course makes no sense to me. You don’t kiss and cuddle and drive around for two hours just talking with someone you’re not clicking with.
    So, first, I’m doubting he gave me an honest answer, and I’m debating whether to ask him if there was anything I did or said.
    Second, I really really really was enjoying spending time with this guy. If he were straight, I think we would be great friends. I’m torn between waiting to see if he’ll come around and change his mind (which, I know, is a long shot, but I don’t even want to miss the ghost of a chance it might happen) or just accept that it will never happen and ask how he feels about us spending time as friends.

    June 5, 2016 at 10:45 pm #102202

    I’d say if you want an explanation, feel free to ask, you at least deserve that. However, as far as getting him back, I’d say the best thing is to just give him space and keep your options open. The ball is on his court now and let him come to you, but it’s a long shot like you said. When you’re feelings for him aren’t there anymore, maybe you could considering asking to hangout again as friends and see how that goes.