Was I out of line for putting my safety first?

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Was I out of line for putting my safety first?

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    CAgirl94
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    December 1, 2014 at 7:45 pm #68506
    Was I out of line for putting my safety first?

    Okay so I met this guy online and we had been talking for a few days. He lives in another state but he said he would come visit. I finally learned his last name and googled him. He had been honest about where he lived, his name, his hobbies, and his profession but completely lied about his hometown and where he went to school. THEN I found he had been arrested before for a misdemeanor crime and failure to appear in court. I didn’t want to completely write him off so I asked if he’d ever been arrested or done anything crazy before and told him honesty was important to me. He denied anything and said he was completely clean. I then told him my safety was very important and I asked permission to do a background check on him. He completely flipped and said I was out of line for asking that and it was “very low of me” and “bad as they come”. I was just trying to be safe and if he had been honest with me I would have been cool about it. Was it wrong for me to ask for a background check?

    • This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by  CAgirl94.

    Confused_too_Long
    Participant
    December 2, 2014 at 9:46 pm #68573

    No. You are completely in the right. Remember the “Craigslist Killer”.

    Risa12
    Risa12
    Participant
    December 2, 2014 at 10:09 pm #68575

    It could have been a case of mistaken identity, but I doubt it if he was so against a background check. Don’t worry about it and move on. Safety first.


    b4nd17
    Participant
    December 3, 2014 at 12:10 am #68580

    Definately not. Unless you already have a bonafide relationship with true love with the dude, there’s no fault in watching out for your own safety. You can never be too careful these days.


    CAgirl94
    Participant
    December 3, 2014 at 8:29 am #68578

    Well I saw his mugshot, so it was definitely him. haha

    elderwaist
    elderwaist
    Participant
    December 10, 2014 at 1:33 pm #69006

    You are completely in the right and everyone should do it!


    ksuapilot
    Participant
    December 10, 2014 at 2:50 pm #69035

    As a male, you are 100% right. He lied to you and that says a lot about his character.