We are friends, but I fell in love. Do I tell him?


We are friends, but I fell in love. Do I tell him?

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    March 11, 2018 at 1:33 pm #167183
    We are friends, but I fell in love. Do I tell him?

    We’ve been friends for a very long time, then two weeks ago I went to visit him for a week and fell in love with him. I’m not sure if I should tell him, I’m playing it very cool as, I’m afraid if he knows, he’ll break off our friendship. Before, we were friends but never really used to hang out with the same crowd. I saw him as being the “quarterback” and me being the geek in the band, yet when we hung out for this one week, I never felt uncomfortable and never awkward. I don’t know if his behavior towards me was due to him being an absolute gentleman, or if I wanted to read more between the lines. We made plans for me to visit him again in July, this time for two weeks, but I’m not sure I can do that feeling the way I do now. He never once kissed me, except on the airport hallo and goodbye, so I’m leaning towards me being the only one feeling like this. Do I tell him, if yes, how do I do it without messing up our friendship? Is it even possible?

    March 17, 2018 at 11:22 am #167640

    if you only fell for him 2 weeks ago then I think you might want to wait until the next visit? Until that time, try to stay connected, talk to him as much as possible? You have 4 months to confirm your feelings. If you’re sure you really are in love with him then, tell him.

    March 19, 2018 at 8:55 am #167652

    Since my post, I realised conversation from his side was becoming less frequent. I will not be telling him. Thank you for your reply, though. It is very much appreciated.