We should be perfect, but he's hot and cold…


We should be perfect, but he's hot and cold…

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    February 28, 2018 at 6:29 pm #166630
    We should be perfect, but he's hot and cold…

    About 6 weeks ago, I met a guy online and we hit it off instantly. We have all the same interests, right down to our favorite movies and music. We both have kids from previous relationships, and he lives over an hour away. This makes it hard to see each other more than once a week at most. We have amazing chemistry, great sex, and we love to cuddle. He says that this long distance is really hard on him, and I can see that he’s becoming depressed. I would like to see him more, and want this to become more. I can see myself living with him at some point, but it just takes a little time to make that happen.

    When we go our separate ways after a night together, for for the next 2 or 3 days he will be very quiet and distant. He now says he needs time to think, and doesn’t know what to do about us. We both took down our dating profiles, because we know we’re not going to find anyone else like *us*. I’m honestly falling in love with him, and don’t know how to handle this. Advice?

    March 2, 2018 at 6:55 pm #166766

    This is a bit of a tricky one.. so you met him about a month and a half ago and live more than an hour away from each other. Are you in contact a lot e.g. texting? I know the feeling when they become distant for a couple days – it’s incredibly frustrating. I believe that if a guy wants something badly enough nothing will stop him, on the other hand I don’t want to make you think he’s not into you since he clearly is. It’s really difficult when negative mental states get into the mix, do you think he’s becoming depressed because he doesn’t see you or is it something else? I mean, if you see him on average about once a week, maybe you could ride on that for a bit longer, throw in some long weekends away together and fun dates until it’s acceptable to start thinking about moving closer? Have you also talked to him about just how much you like him? Sorry for not being of much help :/ I hope you figur
    e it out!

    March 4, 2018 at 9:31 am #166782

    Keep it up front with him.Ask him where he wants to go with you two interactions.Being uofront like that would safe you both some time and effort