What does his silence mean?

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What does his silence mean?

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    caligurl_92
    Participant
    March 29, 2016 at 9:17 pm #96745
    What does his silence mean?

    I went out with a friend of mine. We’ve known each other for ten years and were in the same class before. We are “class friends”. I think we both had crushes on each other, but we didn’t pursue it back then.

    So now many years later, we met up and had a first date. It was great and at the end he kissed me passionately. He asked me about sex before marriage, since he knows i’m a christian. I just told him I take things slow. He asked, so you’re not a first date kinda girl? I told him no. He said he’d be open to it. We left it at that and he just put his arms around me and sighed that he could fall asleep like this. It was sweet.
    He told me that he hadn’t gone fast like this in 5-6 years. That’s when he had his last relationship lasted one year (so he seems like a serious guy?). He also revealed that he was already thinking of us in the future as a couple.

    Here’s the problem: During the first date I asked him when i would see him next time, and he said next week.
    So next week arrive


    caligurl_92
    Participant
    March 29, 2016 at 9:18 pm #96746

    arrived and i sent him a text, but he was too busy in the beginning of the weeks with school and work, which i understand. He told me maybe at the end the week instead. So later on I sent him a text about the weekend, but then again he was too busy. He said no to both days I suggested. He gave me a call explaining that it didn t work out and that he felt bad. He had to go away on a trip for a week to help his family, he couldn’t say no to that.
    And i just told him to let me know when he’s back.

    It’s gone a week since he should be home and I haven’t heard anything from him. I’ve left the situation and haven’t contacted him. Seeing that I initiated all communication after the first date. and I wanted him to start talking to me.

    What should I think of this? If a guy is extremely in to you and then doesn’t even check in to say hi..
    Haven’t heard from him in 2 weeks and 1 month ago since I saw him. It shouldn’t take that long to write a text and a person would find time for you


    anoncandy_
    Participant
    March 30, 2016 at 12:41 am #96754

    I’m just speculating, but he COULD have been just looking for only the sexual aspects of a relationship. When he saw he had to work for it, he may have given up and went on a search for something easier to catch. If that’s the case, don’t let it get you down, there are plenty of other people out there who will value your decision on not putting out on the first date. It’s a good quality to have.


    caligurl_92
    Participant
    March 30, 2016 at 9:04 am #96747

    even if they are ‘busy’…

    If he’s not into me then he was definitely giving me mixed signals. He was wanting sex but at the same time talking about something serious in the future..

    You don’t think that he’s waiting for me to write to him? I feel like I’ve done a lot of initiating..
    What does this silence mean?

    I want to ask him about it in some wise way, but at the same time I don’t want to lower my standards to initiate communication again when i’ve given it a good effort. I am worth pursuing


    coldturkey
    Participant
    March 30, 2016 at 1:30 pm #96839

    Like the other person stated…he was hoping that he could have sex with you on the 1st date….when he realized that it will not happen….he’s on to someone easier…Forget about him.No one is too busy to return a quick text or e-mail for that matter…..You deserve better. Also when he does decide to text you again…tell him off and that you didn’t appreciate being treated that way….


    abbmar
    Participant
    March 31, 2016 at 3:47 pm #96896

    It’s sound to me as if he wanted to have sex with you on the first date and has lost interest. I’d forget about him and move on – but I realize that’s easier said than done.


    midwestcaliguy
    Participant
    April 3, 2016 at 12:40 am #96965

    you should be proud and not wanting a guy that wants to bag date 1. some guy will earn and learn