What more could have i done?

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What more could have i done?

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    ALLEN1307
    Participant
    October 29, 2017 at 4:55 pm #154398
    What more could have i done?

    This girl I met a few years ago messaged me out of the blue and we got chatting.
    Then after a few days we arranged to go out but she cancelled on me.
    so we arranged another time and she cancelled yet again.
    We finally went out on her birthday and I got her chocolate and flowers (she said there and then we should move in together in the summer her idea)
    Then we arranged to go out on Valentines day but surprise she cancelled yet again.
    I gave her a bit of space then I said I will pick her up and take her out.
    But she cancelled again she messaged me saying she loves having me in her life.
    I gave her some space then a fortnight later she messaged me saying she does not think it is right to bring me into her life at the moment.
    She will message me soon but never did so after a month I messaged just asking if she is ok.
    She responded do not contact me.
    What did I do wrong.


    SoloDolo
    Participant
    October 29, 2017 at 8:41 pm #154399

    She seems like a girl who is afraid of being hurt, knowing that you offer gestures, she probably is afraid of commitment,.


    brm2718
    Participant
    October 30, 2017 at 11:58 am #154431

    If you’re doing your part to try to begin a relationship with someone but they aren’t doing theirs, you’re probably best suited to move on. It doesn’t mean that you did anything wrong and it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want something with you but maybe she’s not in a place in her life where she is looking for a committed relationship. Timing may be off or maybe maturity levels may be different. Probably nothing wrong with either or you

    ladygirl
    ladygirl
    Participant
    October 30, 2017 at 12:09 pm #154434

    I agree with solodolo


    bdr0705
    Participant
    October 30, 2017 at 1:47 pm #154466

    Seems like she’s had a traumatic event happened and that she’s afraid to open up. But it could also be true that she just doesn’t commit to you. I would just move on. She’s not putting effort into the relationship.


    Sushimelody
    Participant
    October 30, 2017 at 2:18 pm #154479

    Honestly I don’t think you could have done much more. You made the effort to invite her out and was considerate by giving her space. The fact that she kept on cancelling does seem like everyone has said, she’s probably afraid to commit or something else is stopping her from turning to you.

    But personally if she said do not contact me after cancelling on me so many times prior, then I would move on.

    roy4567
    roy4567
    Participant
    October 31, 2017 at 1:17 pm #154613

    probably she sense game or drama.


    Datingin2017
    Participant
    October 31, 2017 at 8:16 pm #154636

    Or maybe she is having personality problems and can’t decide what she wants…


    Stark
    Participant
    November 2, 2017 at 6:43 am #154766

    Personality trauma probably


    Grace228722
    Participant
    November 3, 2017 at 12:39 pm #154977
    Reply To: What more could have i done?

    Agreed with Solo dolo


    jamjamjam
    Participant
    November 3, 2017 at 6:06 pm #155069
    Reply To: What more could have i done?

    There’s nothing wrong with you… She’s contradictory, She seems having a borderline desorder. ^^
    Stop being patient with her and make your own way with a more decisive girl, who will deserve your time!


    lovetodaydream
    Participant
    November 4, 2017 at 10:17 am #155078
    Reply To: What more could have i done?

    It is not your fault. At best, she is moody, at worst she has serious issues. Do not blame yourself. I hope you find someone who deserves you. You seem sweet.


    Torimyers
    Participant
    November 5, 2017 at 1:03 am #155098
    Reply To: What more could have i done?

    She could’ve had a bad relationship in the past and some of that is still haunting her to where she may be truly into you but she’s afraid to move forward of fear she’ll be right back where she was before


    anonymous12345
    Participant
    November 7, 2017 at 10:55 am #155376
    Reply To: What more could have i done?

    I sense fear of moving forward and doesn’t know what she wants. You didn’t do anything wrong and I don’t think there is more that you could do.


    ALLEN1307
    Participant
    November 7, 2017 at 8:05 pm #155496
    Reply To: What more could have i done?

    Thanks I just hope the next guy she takes an interest in she treats them better.
    If I bumped into her I would just say hi and leave it at that.

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