What should I do?

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What should I do?

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    glddstgpsy
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    August 13, 2017 at 8:16 am #145248
    What should I do?

    Im a lesbian and Ive gone on 3 dates with an older bi woman I met off of Tinder. Everything she said indicated that she liked me, and I made it clear that I liked her too. Shes never had a relationship with a woman before. We made out but thats as far as we got. I had a date planned with her tomorrow at my house, but she cancelled today. I honestly was really hoping to hook up with her, but Im concerned that she perhaps thought that I was solely looking for something more (we never discussed our relationship goals, I think its a little to early). I left the ball in her court… give me a call later if you want to chat.

    Shes a very sexy girl, and I wouldnt mind just having a physical relationship with her. Is there any tactful way for me to convey that to her without seeming needy? Should I wait a few days shoot her a text? Friends tell me to go dark for a bit, and then see if she reaches out. I feel as though I might be missing an opportunity by not speaking my mind.

    richiro
    richiro
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    August 14, 2017 at 11:28 am #145369

    i don’t think being aggressive and coming right out with the “i dont’ mind if we’re just sexual” is going to work here.
    This is a woman who is bi, but never been with another woman. I can only imagine all the things going thru her head trying it for the first time.

    I think you’ll have to be the nurturer and go slow on this one and be the supportive/encourager on this one that lets her dictate the pace with what she’s comfy with given this is her first time.

    I think you need to firmly decide if this is a sexual-only experiene you want with her, or if you can see a relationship between you two – and be honest with her to make sure you’re on the same page. but i wouldn’t come out and just say “i’m cool if we just want to (blank)” … that might be a bit too much for a first timer.


    Louis Richards
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    August 14, 2017 at 2:10 pm #145406

    i don’t think being aggressive and coming right out with the “i dont’ mind if we’re just sexual” is going to work here.
    This is a woman who is bi, but never been with another woman. I can only imagine all the things going thru her head trying it for the first time.

    I think you’ll have to be the nurturer and go slow on this one and be the supportive/encourager on this one that lets her dictate the pace with what she’s comfy with given this is her first time.

    I think you need to firmly decide if this is a sexual-only experiene you want with her, or if you can see a relationship between you two – and be honest with her to make sure you’re on the same page. but i wouldn’t come out and just say “i’m cool if we just want to (blank)” … that might be a bit too much for a first timer.

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    I agree