Why are men so confusing???

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Why are men so confusing???

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    btrfly81
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    January 20, 2013 at 9:25 pm #20814
    Why are men so confusing???

    I recently met this guy online. We texted for a few weeks then finally met last weekend. I had a great time and have to admit I had sex with him. I still hear from him almost everyday but I am not sure if he wants to see me again and I don’t want to seem to eager by asking. When we texted prior to meeting we flirted a lot but now we don’t. Is that bad???? I’m really confused and not sure how to proceed. Should I wait for him to bring up seeing each other again?


    an artists logic
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    January 21, 2013 at 11:33 pm #20872

    Is he initiating contact or are you? If he is, then maybe he’s having the same thoughts as you about it. If you are, then maybe you should move on…


    slobeachboy
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    March 11, 2013 at 12:47 am #25397

    I’m not even going to get into why you were texting back and forth for two weeks when you could simply have been having phone conversations, but whatever. Anyway, if this guy was flirtatious before you had sex and now he is not (yes its bad) then I’m afraid that the sexual chemistry was probably just not there for him. But if that is the case please don’t start thinking that its something that you did or didn’t do or that it means you’re not attractive. Sexual chemistry just either exists between two people or it doesn’t and technique has nothing to do with it. It comes from the very essence of the two people. In fact I have been with some girls in the past who had great bodies and who definitely knew what they were doing in bed and yet afterwards something was just missing – the chemistry just wasn’t there. Anyway it sounds like the guy is just keeping in touch because he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by disappearing immediately after sleeping with you. On the other hand, it HAS only been a week since you last saw him (obsess much?). By the way, I’m assuming you at least had some webcam chats with this guy before meeting, or at the very least exchanged lots of recent photos of yourselves. You should always do that before the flirting starts, otherwise it can be very awkward to have to back petal later when you find that you are not really attracted to the person. And yes, sometimes a guy will still have sex with a woman even if he’s not that attracted to her and knows that he’s probably not going to want to see her again – men can be dogs.