Why did he become distant?

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Why did he become distant?

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    thebrooklynshow
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    September 24, 2015 at 4:11 pm #85873
    Why did he become distant?

    I have been hanging out with this guy and it was strictly platonic.We ended up having sex which was amazing but I told him it couldn’t happen again.We carried on our platonic relationship and he was always the one texting me and inviting me out but I would decline.Anyway recently I felt the need to want to have sex with him(I do very much enjoy his company as well though) so we did and it was horrible. He was definitely detached and I was really bummed.After the first time we had sex I was very distant and I think he sensed it but still pursued me and contacted me.We had a mini argument in which I never responded after he cursed me out and we didn’t contact each other for a week.He then texted me,we apologized and met up again(second time we had sex)Anyway why do guys get like this? There is so much more details to this story but I dont have enough characters.why go through the hassle of seeing me or even contacting me after our falling out to have detached sex?


    jasmiine_j
    Participant
    September 24, 2015 at 4:19 pm #85877

    maybe he felt like you weren’t interested in him anymore


    lolbye000
    Participant
    September 27, 2015 at 7:51 pm #86017

    With most men, I always say never have sex with someone until you know for sure they want to be with you. Because if all they want is sex, they will try to get into your pants and as soon as you give it them they dip


    chou
    Participant
    September 27, 2015 at 10:17 pm #86022

    When you withdrew after sex, that totally confuses a guy…in a good way…and bad.

    A) It’s not what most girls do, they usually get very attached after sex, which can completely turn a guy off…
    B) By doing this, you actually made him more intensely desire you, it gave him part of the ‘chase’.

    I totally agree with this/