Why did he change his mind?


Why did he change his mind?

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    January 2, 2016 at 1:03 am #90776
    Why did he change his mind?

    Met a guy at a party last week. He immediately showed interest and asked for my number. The next day, he reached out via text and we chatted for a bit. At the end of our convo, he said “Lets do brunch sometime. Let me know when you’re free next week.” I responded with “Cool. I’m free next Saturday or Sunday.” After that, he said he’ll be in touch.

    Fast forward to today. He wished me happy new year and I did the same. Then he asked me if I had plans for Saturday night. I told him I was free and he followed up with “me and my friends are going to this lounge and I wanted to invite you out.” I said “sounds fun, thanks for the invite, I’ll keep you posted” and he said “Cool. No pressure. If it doesn’t work out, we can plan something else.” I replied “sounds good!”

    I’m a little annoyed that he switched things up. He asks me out for brunch initially, but now he’s inviting me to party with his boys. Why do guys do this? Should I mention brunch or let him take the lead?

    January 2, 2016 at 10:35 am #90789

    Hello Doll,

    The reason he changed it up on you is became you are coming across too available. You should not have told him told him you were free on both Saturday and Sunday. As a woman we have to come across busy and like we have lots going on. It keeps them interested and makes us desirable. Do not text him anymore.
    He blew you off and is now asking you to go to a club, basically, which is not a date and not romantic. I would not go to the club. If he texts you, wait a few hours before texting back. Never text back immediately and if he or any guy has a prob with that tell them “I’m just not a huge texted at all” in a very polite and feminine way. This way they HAVE to make plans to see you if they want you 😉
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    January 3, 2016 at 5:04 am #90830

    yeah cool it off a bit 🙂