Why do I feel so strung out between dates?


Why do I feel so strung out between dates?

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    July 16, 2016 at 7:25 am #105446
    Why do I feel so strung out between dates?

    I have not been on a date in 13 years (I’m 43)however, unusual for me I went out had quite a bit to drink and somehow got introduced to a beautiful 19 year old… also very drunk. She was very forward and we ended up kind of sleeping together, though I had to bale earlier than I would have liked.
    We’ve seen each other twice since at a club with all her mates. She’s good to talk to, something we didn’t do much of the first time. There were only a few fireworks the second time and we admitted (rather awkwardly) that we liked each other. The third time a lot less physical but she opened up on a bunch of more personal things. Apparently she’s shy as she starts to get to know someone, like a personality split.
    So now I’ve got a shy girl who admits she doesn’t usually follow through with 1 on1 dates. How can I get this one back in the zone? It drives me crazy nervous wondering if she’ll go any further.

    July 17, 2016 at 5:35 am #105509

    Yeah, though it broke some ice and bridged a substantial age gap, it actually puts us both on the back foot in terms of trust and expectation.