Why does she contradict herself??

DATING ADVICE FORUM

Why does she contradict herself??

    Author
    Comments

  • robril525
    Participant
    September 13, 2016 at 4:22 pm #111294
    Why does she contradict herself??

    OK, so one of my coworkers has been really confusing me lately. I’ve already asked her out and she said no emphatically, so I didn’t try again. She has a BF (she claims, but then admits he’s a wiener and leaves no reason why she should even consider him). We’re still good friends despite that, though.
    So yesterday we were walking off work, and my phone chimed. Naturally I pulled it out of my pocket and read it. Then she asks me if that’s “another” GF, and I replied “so what if it is”.
    Eventually this lead to a pretty good conversation…about our exes. We had each other cracking up with horror stories. She admitted that most if not all her exes were complete morons (and even implied her current BF in that mix). One of which was even gay (don’t ask me how that works)
    I can tell she likes me to some extent. She finds excuses to meet with me and draws them out as far as possible, touches me “accidentally”, does this crazy contradiction thing, etc etc
    So girls: what do I believe? Thx.


    Rosenkavalier
    Participant
    September 17, 2016 at 1:42 am #111737

    Are you seeking a relationship with her? If so, I would pass. The fact that she hates all her exes suggests either a vindictive and malignant personality or terrible judgment. But who knows, could be fun becoming her next ‘bad ex’, maybe she’ll write a song about you and you’ll become famous?


    Sensitive_Soul
    Participant
    September 18, 2016 at 10:08 am #111757

    She sounds confused.

    Coconutty
    Coconutty
    Participant
    September 19, 2016 at 8:44 am #111775

    Hate to make us sound like assholes but we are (women) and a lot of women like myself like to be wanted. She probably doesnt want you to stop desiring her because it feels good but if shes not leaving her man thats what you are to her. A confidence boost hes clearly slacking at.


    josephddiazz
    Participant
    September 20, 2016 at 8:45 am #111889

    I wouldn’t recommend relationships at work, when they fail or get complicated it is always a mess that backfires… but aside from that, if she wasn’t your co worker i would tell you that you just need to continue being a “friend” and i guess make things that will make her feel drawn to you, the same way you would with any other woman you would be interested in. Just small things that you know she would appreciate, not necessarily towards her but maybe your behavior.


    cameron8500
    Participant
    September 22, 2016 at 7:35 pm #112246

    You may end up as the next bf with issues. To create more feelings you should try not being so available (30 days). After 30 days the scarcity will have you being a different person. But be careful with co-workers it can get weird. Many of my co- workers are married to others at my job- not a bad thing just be sure you can handle if things go south.