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LoveherunconditionalParticipantJuly 19, 2015 at 3:56 pm #83022
Recently ive gotten back in touch with a girl i knew in highschool, and we really hit it off again, i “loved” her back in highschool, but this time i have really fallen for her, we are not in a relationship, just fooling around basically. She is very much a live life in the fast lane kind of woman, and im not so much. She has told me that if she ever settled down and calmed down, it would be with me. Would a relationship work between us is my question, were very close and have a lot in common, the sex is great, but every time i ask her out on a date etc. she says she doesnt think it would be fair on me, because she generally fucks over her ex boyfriends. How could i convince her its worth a shot? thats if itd work, im unsure.
BenEasterParticipantJuly 20, 2015 at 2:34 am #83031
Well first of all, I think it is really important that you can’t “convince her” of anything. If you went to the pound to adopt a dog and you play with a dog who doesn’t really do it for you, nothing the attendant says about the dog is going to convince you to change your mind. The only thing that could possibly work is if you somehow start to feel differently about the dog. You’ll only have a chance with this girl if she feels like it is worth it. Work on the heart, not the head.
Also, are you sure this is a good idea for you? Can you handle the “live life in the fast lane” thing? What she is trying to prepare you for is her possibly sleeping with someone else or dropping you like your hot. What do you think she means when she says that she “generally fucks over her ex boyfriends?”
In conclusion, make her feel really good around you and be careful what you wish for…
zach94ParticipantJuly 20, 2015 at 9:33 pm #83065
BenEaster hit the nail on the head.
The only thing I would add is next time you pick her up or she heads to your place, buy her flowers, send her texts telling her you’re thinking of her, have her get the feel of a relationship with you. BUT again, BenEaster is right, if she’s telling you that she might fool around with an ex or something, which it sounds like she is saying that, don’t get involved! I dated a chick like that, who I looked at how you do with her. and it didn’t last a month before she cheated. If she wants a relationship with you, she’ll be willing to lie to you about how she is, just for you to look her way. She’ll want you to think she’s an innocent chick since you’re not a fast lane dude. Don’t change yourself for a woman and don’t set yourself for disaster.
I wish you luck with it and hope if you decide to pursue her, that she doesn’t screw you over.
AnonymousJuly 21, 2015 at 7:46 am #83070
dude the girl basically just want to f*ck. you see we are not only roses and butterflies and chocolates. Women today has change already, they know what they want. Don’t waste your time if you are looking for the serious type.
mortermanParticipantJuly 21, 2015 at 11:35 pm #83107
I agree with above Anonymous. Dont waste your time
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