Would you wait for marriage to have sex?

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Would you wait for marriage to have sex?

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    osubsu
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    December 29, 2015 at 11:15 pm #90711
    Would you wait for marriage to have sex?

    This is both a question and a poll. It seems like almost no one waits for marriage to have sex (whether a first marriage or subsequent one). If you met a guy you really liked but he wanted to wait for marriage to have sex would that be a deal breaker or something you would consider? In answering please include if you have ever been married or not. Thanks.


    tyw2345
    Participant
    December 29, 2015 at 11:22 pm #90712

    No


    lovememore
    Participant
    December 30, 2015 at 12:14 am #90715

    Yes, especially if you become a single parent who will raise a child.


    wyin79
    Participant
    December 31, 2015 at 4:01 am #90750

    I’m not married yet. Lol. But I vote Yes. If only you’re sure about your guy relationship. I mean It’s just for fun or a serious relationship? And don’t forget protection if you’re not ready for anything futher.
    Because. I have to tell you that I think Sex will become an important part when u get marrried or a long-term rls. I had a very hard time when I know my ex can only last about … maximum 5 seconds… Sometime he comes when we don’t even start yet. He knew it, may be, sometime he was very embrass. But we really don’t want to talk straight about it. But in a long run It would be a huge problem for every couples


    gabbiebee
    Participant
    January 2, 2016 at 1:47 am #90778

    I personally don’t think I would ever. Marriage is a big deal, but I think that just because you aren’t married doesn’t mean the love and the passion and loyalty aren’t already there. So why wait for a ceremony to express how you feel to another person you really really love.


    sinclaircz
    Participant
    January 2, 2016 at 3:51 pm #90809

    I guess that all you need is consent. If you really feel in love with that person, then why wait?

    Though CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT is the most important bit!


    Nobodyspecial34
    Participant
    January 3, 2016 at 6:39 am #90832

    Yeah I would. Need to have a way to provide before you have a family


    rainyday12
    Participant
    January 3, 2016 at 7:24 am #90837
    Reply To: Would you wait for marriage to have sex?

    No


    newstar
    Participant
    January 3, 2016 at 8:14 pm #90844
    Reply To: Would you wait for marriage to have sex?

    There are both pros and cons for this. Think before you proceed.


    mazman
    Participant
    January 4, 2016 at 8:10 am #90722

    OMG… is this post from 1875? Any guy who waits cant get a hard on or has a penis smaller than my pinkie ( yes ive been told by two different girls they have witnessed that.) As for a guy …… me ….. Hell no. u get three dates. if im not getting laid by then its bu bye. sorry but thats the fact jack.


    osubsu
    Participant
    January 4, 2016 at 8:10 am #90734

    I have a theory on the increase of pre-marital sex. For many generations waiting until marriage to have sex was the norm. There were practical reasons such as: 1) should an unplanned pregnancy occur the mother now has legal recourse against the father should he decide to shun his responsibilities, 2) far less risk of STD’s, 3) no expectations born of previous lovers that might lead to dissatisfaction in the present relationship (i.e., nothing to compare to) , 4) sex would be associated with a long-term, committed relationship and thus would be more than a purely physical act. Along with these reasons you also had the morality of many whose faith taught them to wait.


    osubsu
    Participant
    January 4, 2016 at 8:10 am #90735

    What’s changed? For one our society is now saturated with sex. It’s in our ads, our TV shows and movies, described in song lyrics, romance novels, and erotic literature. Depicted widely in a never-ending stream of Internet porn and on-demand TV. Sex sells and our advertising is rife with sexual images and suggestions from selling beer to selling cars. You can’t live in modern society and escape sexuality. What used to be an intensely private act is now on the big screen, the billboard, the PC, and even the smart phone. The waiting period between the onset of puberty and the average age of first marriage is longer than in anytime in history.

    Society has become disposable. The divorce rate is high and relationships are no longer viewed as permanent. Why wait months or years for something that may be over in months or years? Sex is now viewed as a need that must be met and not a blessing in the case of a life-long relationship.


    osubsu
    Participant
    January 4, 2016 at 8:10 am #90736

    Separated from it’s exclusivity to marriage sex has become an end unto itself. Rather than being a glue, a bond that helps preserve the already challenging commitment of loving one person for life it has become a fun entitlement to anyone past puberty. Sexual compatibility never used to be a checklist item for marriage but is now. The belief that if two people loved each other they would sacrificially serve each other and work through differences in libido or style it is now a prerequisite to resolve any sexual differences before marriage or not marry.Sex has taken on a far greater role in the marriage than ever before. Modern society is a disposable, impatient society. We want what we want and we want it NOW. The divorce rate is so high in large part to couples no longer being prepared for marriage nor equipped to stay committed and work through the tough times. Second or subsequent marriages suffer even more from this and thus their higher divorce rates.


    osubsu
    Participant
    January 4, 2016 at 8:11 am #90737

    Finally we live in an age of watered down religion or even an abandonment of traditional religion. Instead of submitting to a high authority we have become the highest authority in our lives. Our wants, our needs, our beliefs trump all. Many still outwardly attend church but feel empowered to act as they see fit. Abstaining from sex until marriage is now often viewed as outdated, unreasonable, Victorian, backwards, old fashioned, and impractical. We no longer exercise faith for the strength and peace to wait but so no reason to wait no reason to not enjoy now a blessing that was once held to be exclusive to marriage. Ever generation has had those who eschewed traditional teaching on sex outside of marriage but the numbers now are epidemic. Sexual morality almost no longer exists. We have open relationships, wife swapping, swinger clubs, and just about anything else you might want. Sex is like ordering coffee. Would you like that with bondage, a sprinkle of adultery, in the bathroom?


    BBear_sp
    Participant
    January 6, 2016 at 8:51 am #91091
    Reply To: Would you wait for marriage to have sex?

    Well, I have never been marked, and I’m also not very religious, so I wouldn’t consider waiting until mariage to do it. Of course, if I was dating someone that I really loved and could see myself married in the future thought it was a big deal I guess I could wait for marriage, though it isn’t my ideal. I guess I would do it out of respect for said person.

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