Whether someone is depressed or just seeking personal growth, one of the homework assignments I often give to clients is to create an Affirmations Journal. This is simply a spiral notebook where you can keep all the motivational and inspirational sayings, quotes, poems, song lyrics, and images you come across that resonate with you.
During times of gloominess or when you need some direction, referring to this collection can be a real pick-me-up, something to center and ground you, or motivate you toward your goals. Lots of affirmations out there can be quite cheesy, so the trick is to find those that strike a chord with you in a positive way so they will be more meaningful and impactful to your needs.
This article will share some motivational quotes about gay love and relationships for you to ponder and see how you can apply these to your life to further your personal development and relationship success.
Best Gay Love Quotes (#1-2)
If you’re partnered, this first quote will help you contemplate the importance of where to channel your energies to create the type of relationship you desire. Especially when things are tenuous with our loved one, it can be tempting to look outside the relationship for relief or enrichment. But is that really the best choice in the scheme of life?
The next quote speaks to singles who are seeking their ideal partner and the dilemma of where to channel your energies… toward personal growth and development or toward the natural inclination to focus on the available guys or gals in the dating market. Which has the best prognosis?
1. “The Grass is Greener Where You Water It”
Though not necessarily speaking specifically to relationships, this is one of my favorite quotes, particularly when it comes to couples. In my work with troubled couples, it’s commonplace to hear partners questioning the future status of their relationship, believing that “maybe there’s somebody out there for whom I’m better suited” or “with all this conflict, maybe we’re not compatible after all.”
While not all relationships are meant to be, particularly in cases of domestic violence, addictions, and values clashes, the great majority can be saved with effort. We live in a society that views relationships as disposable, and this tendency, unfortunately, has caused a lot of casualties between partners who truly could have been successful and experienced deep intimacy had they hung in there and confronted their issues (which all relationships have; it’s evidence of maturation!) head-on as a united front.
It is not always better on the other side of the fence; you’ll likely just trade in your challenges for another set that might not be to your liking. Make a commitment to “water your own lawn” as a team, and you just might build a prosperous relationship you’ll be proud to call your own.
2. “Don’t Just Look for Mr. Right — Become Him”
Many singles become caught in an other-directed view of dating, directing their efforts toward finding the right guy, only to become frustrated and jaded when they meet a bunch of Mr. Wrongs.
Dating success odds are raised when you focus your energies on becoming the most dateable you that you can be. The Law of Attraction states that we attract what we put out there.
Do the work involved in becoming the best version of yourself possible by clearing space in your life to become physically and emotionally available for a relationship, put closure to unfinished business from the past that might be holding you back, strengthen your self-esteem, confidence, and social skills, and make sure you’re living a life of purpose, passion, and meaning.
You will then bolster your chances for becoming a magnet for other healthy individuals with similar visions and lifestyles.
Best Sad Gay Love Quotes (#3-4)
Our next batch of quotes speaks to the sadness that accompanies the challenges associated with having our gay relationships legitimized, as well as the loneliness and pain inherent in a love that is not reciprocated. How can we empower ourselves when the chips are down and when our situations appear hopeless and insurmountable?
3. “Gay Marriage & Straight Marriage Are the Same Thing as Bikini Tops & Bras. The Same Thing, But Only One is Acceptable in Public… How Sad”
This is a quote I found by an unknown author. While significant progress has been made in recent decades with gay relationships being affirmed, as evidenced by the legalization of gay marriage in some states across the country, our partnerships are still stigmatized, and we still have a way to go regarding equal rights.
We have the power to change that. All successful movements have had one common ingredient… numbers. The more we band together as a group and fight for our relationship rights, the closer to victory we will come.
We can accomplish this by making our love for our partners more visible by showing public displays of affection and being unapologetically ourselves like our heterosexual counterparts have always been able to do and take for granted.
If you feel safe doing this, just know the more exposure society has to gay love, the more accepting our culture will get to our relationships, and it will eventually become a non-issue.
4. “The Most Terrible Loneliness is in Loving Someone Completely, Deeply & Without Reserve & Knowing You’re Not Loved That Way in Return”
We can’t help who we fall in love with, but in situations where those feelings aren’t reciprocated, it’s important to grieve that loss and redirect your energies toward other possibilities.
Their lack of interest is a signal that your personal requirements for a partner and relationship are not going to be met, and that is an important distinction to not take lightly.
You deserve to be with someone who is enthusiastic about you, so avoid investing your heart any further and take good care of yourself as you continue on your dating journey.
Best Cute Gay Love Quotes (#5-6)
Need some words that will make you feel warm and fuzzy? These next two cute quotes speak to the euphoria associated with new love and the adoration that becomes a natural expression of the bonding and chemistry that characterizes the early stage of relationship development.
5. “You Know You’ve Found Mr. Right When He Not Only Cuts Your Meat for You But Bandages It For You, Too”
This quote actually came from the lips of my fiancé Loren Michaels Harris, and I thought it was too cute for words (I know, biased, right?!). A partner who is attentive, loving, caring, self-sacrificing, and puts you in the front row seat of his life as his number one priority is definitely a keeper.
Never take these actions for granted, reciprocate in your own special way that meets his particular love language, and you’ve got a recipe for bliss!
6. “If I Fall Asleep Texting You, It’s Because I Didn’t Want to Say Goodbye”
This quote shows that new love can be intoxicating with the surges of chemistry and attraction that bind you together and you want to spend every waking moment with each other.
It’s important during this honeymoon period to balance togetherness with separateness and remember you have other roles, responsibilities, and relationships that need attending. Balancing these is key to avoid burning out your new romance.
Pace the involvement enough to get to know each other thoroughly and ascertain that there is compatibility. Avoiding attachment-at-the-hip can also help keep things fresh and invigorated. It’s important to come up for air, after all.
Best Sweet Gay Love Quotes (#7-8)
Ready for some gooey sweetness? These two quotes capitalize on the attraction and admiration that comes with loving someone, flecked with a little bit of humor to make you smile or swoon.
7. “You Wanna Know Who I’m in Love With? Read the First Word Again :)”
I can’t help but say awww when reading this quote. Where’s the syrup?!
8. “I Love You With All My Butt! I Would Say My Heart, But My Butt is Bigger!”
Enough said! Too funny!
Make Your Relationship a Priority By Adding Love Quotes to Your Daily Routine!
Affirmations are intended to provide emotional support, motivation, energy, encouragement, and inspiration and can be particularly helpful to lift a wounded spirit, pursue dreams and goals, and keep one centered throughout the vicissitudes of life. Their power rests in the meaning individuals derive from them and the positive actions they encourage.
Our relationships provide such depth of meaning in our lives that love quotes can be a helpful addition to our daily routines to ensure we don’t take our partnerships for granted and that we make our relationships a priority. I encourage you to keep an affirmations journal or scrapbook to help define and capture the type of love and relationship you want to cultivate so it becomes a living realty in you and your partner’s ongoing love story.
What are some motivating, inspiring, uplifting affirmations that you like about gay love and relationships? Please write them below in the comments section and describe what the quote means to you. Enjoy!