Imagine Jeff, a handsome single gay man who’s moved to a new city for a job and is excited about establishing roots and meeting new people. One of his New Year’s resolutions is to reduce the number of hours he spends at the office and start investing in his love life. He wants to make dating more of a priority but doesn’t know where to start.
If you’re like Jeff with a busy work schedule and tons of obligations to family and friends, you don’t likely have time to figure out where to meet quality guys. Wouldn’t it be nice to find compatible single gay men in your vicinity? Wouldn’t it be nice to not have to travel all the way across town in rush hour traffic to meet up for coffee?
Well, this article will help simplify that process for you in terms of helping you identify venues where you can meet your Mr. Right… within your own zip code!
Where to Meet Gay People Online (#1-3)
The most trendy and least threatening way to meet other single gay guys is on the World Wide Web, and here are three ways to do just that:
1. Sign Up for a Dating Site
By posting a profile on a dating site, you can quickly attract men who are most aligned with your preferences and values based on the content you write in your profile. Most dating sites will have a geographic radius posted within each guy’s profile for quick reference on how close or far away he may be from you, and this can be a big help if distance is an issue for you.
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Be sure to be very clear in your description about what you’re looking for. This can go a long way toward attracting the right kind of respondent; remember, quality is more important than quantity when it comes to yielding responses on dating sites. When discussing your personal requirements, use your personality and humor to make you stand out from the crowd and create intrigue. David Steele’s book “Conscious Dating” is a good resource for helping you decipher your personal requirements.
2. Join a Specialty Group
Websites like Facebook and Meetup.com, as well as those you find if you do a Google search for discussion forums, catering to gay topics can be a great way to meet other single gay men. By typing in a particular hobby or specialty interest, you’ll be aligned with other like-minded individuals.
This is when self-awareness of your talents, interests, and passions can come in handy. You will be positioning yourself in dating venues where you already have built-in compatibility that puts you ahead of the game. Survey your interests and start signing up for these sites to become part of their communities. Also, if these sites are lacking in what you’re looking for, you can also create your own specialty groups and become the moderator of your very own community.
3. Instagram Your Way to Compatible Matches
Did you know that by posting videos and pictures of yourself and your interests on Instagram, you can attract other people and encourage them to reach out and get to know you? Give it a shot!
Similar to your dating profile, your Instagram pictures or videos should reflect your identity and personality to attract compatible dating prospects who best align with who you are and what you stand for.
Where to Meet Gay People Offline (#4-6)
The local farmers market, health club, bookstore, and the like remain common venues for meeting gay singles. However, due to the expansiveness of these places and the difficulty of determining who’s straight versus gay (not to mention knowing who’s single or already taken), these locations can be a bit difficult to screen for potential dating candidates.
Here are venues where you might have a better chance of finding your Mr. Right.
Most metropolitan areas have gay health centers, recreational clubs, or advocacy centers where you can volunteer your time and get to know other gay people who share similar values and interests while simultaneously making a difference in the world. VolunteerMatch is a good site to find these organizations, and once you find one, contact them to see how you might get involved.
By taking an inventory of your personal values, you can determine what venues to contact that would help fulfill your desire to help others. The added bonus is you’ll also be meeting other people who share similar life philosophies, and this already puts you ahead of the game in terms of compatibility and conversation-starters.
5. Gay Festivals & Events
More often available during the summer months, gay pride activities attract hordes of gay men for mixing and mingling to celebrate being gay and honor our predecessors who made it possible for us to be out in today’s society. Check out your community’s social calendar for the year and get involved in local Gay Pride events and other parties where you can be sure to be among other gay compatriots.
Remember to be the driver of your life! If you see someone who intrigues you, go up and introduce yourself. Lots of missed dating opportunities occur because people are too afraid to make the first move, so take the initiative and put yourself out there. Boost your confidence, self-esteem, and social skills by going to counseling, attending personal growth workshops, or enrolling in an improv class.
6. Join an LGBT-friendly Church
More and more gay-friendly churches are popping up all over the country. By doing your research, you can locate these religious institutions and become involved and meet others who are like-minded. Here’s a site that can help you find gay-affirmative churches near you if this particular venue resonates with you.
Choosing a particular church is a very personal decision. Explore various churches to get a feel for where you’ll be the most comfortable and visit each place a couple of times before evaluating its fit or lack thereof. Also investigate the various activities and causes the church supports to see if any of their service efforts resonate with you. Happy hunting!
Whether Online or Offline, the Gay Men are Out There!
These are just a handful of suggestions on where you can potentially meet other single gay men in your immediate area. With these tips, you’ll never have to be a Jeff again.
What are some other ideas you have that you might want to share with our community? What other venues have worked for you in meeting other single gay men in your vicinity? Let’s share in the wisdom!
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