Senior Dating

How to Approach a Senior Man

Nick Slade Nick Slade • 9/24/12

A senior man is the perfect blend of a young, outspoken boy, unhampered by the silly conventions of civilized society, and a nice young man. Maybe you can throw in a dollop of that loyal Labrador you grew up with, in his mature mellow years.

Like the boy, he’s comfortable in his skin and doesn’t see life through the single eye of his penis. Like the young man, his mind is always busy with some project or idea, and he knows a lot about a variety of topics — but still has an eye for the ladies. And he’s a joy to be around and easy to please, like good ol’ Duke.

Striking up a conversation with a senior man is child’s play compared to what you ladies went through to meet guys at the discos of the 1970s. For young people, everything has sexual innuendo attached to it.

But a man in his 50s, 60s and beyond is not going to view your approach through a sexual filter, and he is going to see you for the sweet, friendly woman you are. All conversations are welcome and all approaches from women are unexpected pleasures.

Your risk of rejection is extremely low. And, unlike the guys you used to flirt with at the disco, he’s not going make any assumptions about your intentions or virtue.

There’s no doubt that he would love to get to know you, so just keep it comfortable and natural. Try some of these tips to help you approach him.

Catch him looking at you.

Older men have learned to smell the roses and enjoy the little things in life, unabashed and unconstrained by uptight social customs. If he sees something (or someone) worth looking at, he is going to take a moment to enjoy nature’s artistry.

There’s a good chance the object of his attention will be you.

So, call him on it, in a good-natured flirtatious way, with a smile on your face: “What are you looking at?” Chances are, he’ll play along — and maybe even tell you exactly what he was looking at.

Or, just use his visual attraction to you to establish eye contact, give him a smile and approach him with a greeting or question that fits the circumstances and location.

Eye contact establishes a human link and a fleeting bond of familiarity, so act right away while you “know” each other and get the ball rolling. Remember, he’s friendly and won’t bite.

Ask him for help or directions.

Every man is always eager to help a lady. Go to the “man” store, like Lowe’s or Home Depot, and ask him for advice on a screen door, deadbolt, mower or lawn rake. He will probably have some good information and might even offer to help you with your project.

At the supermarket, you can help him choose when you see him looking over the kinds of soup or cuts of beef. At the mall, you can ask him how to find the bookstore (which probably has a coffee shop, so invite him along).

In the parking lot, you can ask him to hold your bag of groceries while you open your car door. If you see a man slow down and watch to see if you can carry those bags or open that door, he wants to help, so make his day and ask him.

No man can resist the opportunity to assist a damsel in distress.

Get him involved.

If you volunteer or attend a social organization, or find yourself in any kind of group setting, men will be there, too. If you see him standing around, just enlist his help. He can set up extra chairs for the overflow at the church dinner, or you can encourage him to speak up in the class or meeting.

If you know him from your apartment building or work, invite him to come along with you to your group for widows and widowers or divorced seniors, to the gym, to your volunteer group or even to the store.

Senior men have been tamed by life and by the women they have known, so they are not hard to approach. Most of them are well-behaved, good-natured, gentle-spirited and polite.

A conversation with you is bound to be the highlight of his day, so give him a treat and say hello. He won’t mind missing the beginning of “America’s Got Talent” if he can spend a little time with you.