Some daters may go for candles and flowers, but, when I want to set the mood on a date, I head straight for my playlist and queue up my favorite love songs. It’s simple and effective. Certain songs strike a chord with daters by giving voice to the thoughts and feelings that make romantic relationships so worthwhile.
If you’re a lesbian, though, classic hetero-normative songs like “Stand By Your Man” may not exactly speak to how you feel about your special lady. That’s why we’ve put together this list of 21 songs about lesbian love. These soulful and sentimental tunes can help you create a romantic moment with your date and express how you feel without having to say a word.
1. “All I Want Is To Be Your Girl” — Holly Miranda
Topping our list is “All I Want Is To Be Your Girl” sung by Holly Miranda. Listening to this song once is enough to get it stuck in your head all day. It perfectly captures the addictive joy of a new crush.
Released in 2015, “All I Want Is to be Your Girl” is number one on our list because it’s so darn cute. Its lyrics emphasize the spontaneity, surprise, and silliness of falling for the right girl. “I wasn’t looking for love,” Holly sings, “but she found me.”
Whether you’re dating or married, “All I Want Is to be Your Girl” speaks to lesbian relationships of all kinds. This song inspires couples to dance until dawn and lose themselves in the music and the moonlight.
2. “She Keeps Me Warm” — Mary Lambert
Not gonna lie, I’ve definitely jammed out to this one in my car more than once. It’s just so catchy and adorable! “She Keeps Me Warm” is Mary Lambert’s anthem to lesbian chicks out there looking for someone to cuddle up to. It’s an empowering song about owning who you are and loving who you love.
Whatever your orientation, this 2013 pop hit is one you’ll want to play over and over. The heartwarming lyrics beautifully describe how it feels to fall in love, and Mary’s vocal range is positively euphoric from start to finish.
3. “The Power of Two” — Indigo Girls
The best love songs are simple. They get to the core of what loving someone means, and that’s what “The Power of Two” by the Indigo Girls does. While strumming on acoustic guitars, these women perfectly blend their voices to explain how they “multiple life by the power of two.”
“The Power of Two” describes a couple drying each other’s tears, enjoying each other’s company, and promising to stay together through the years. The duet is enough to make anyone’s knees go weak, but it’s especially powerful for women who have a love that’s stronger than all fears and obstacles.
4. “Love You Anyway” — Jil Nilsson & Marlene
Sometimes love hurts, and sometimes our partners let us down. But true commitment is about enduring the lows as well as the highs with that special someone. That’s the theme Jill Nilsson and Marlene drive home in their duet “Love You Anyway.” The singers promise an eternal love that will persist through tears, conflict, and hardship.
5. “Who Are You Waiting For?” — Melissa Etheridge
Singer and songwriter Melissa Etheridge came out as a lesbian in 2002 when she fell in love with her best friend of 10 years. Talk about romance! Melissa wrote a song for her now-wife Linda Wallem and actually sang it to her as they said their vows at the foot of the Santa Ynez Mountain range in California.
“Who Are You Waiting For?” is Melissa’s heartfelt tribute to her partner. You can play this slow song to make a memorable moment of your own with the one you love.
“Wherever you go, I will go, too. Wherever you stay, I’ll stay with you,” Melissa sings. Her song’s lyrics inspire lovers to hold hands, and it just might make you realize that the one you’ve been waiting for has been right in front of you.
6. “Constant Craving” — k. d. lang
From the first note, k. d. lang’s song “Constant Craving” pulls women in and encourages them to sway along to the music. It’s a magnetic tune dwelling on themes of desire, youth, and beauty. The tough-girl singer reveals a softer side as she pines over someone out of her reach.
In 1993, “Constant Craving” won k.d. lang her first Grammy for Best Female Pop Vocal Performance (she beat out Mariah Carey and Celine Dion) and put her on the map as a lesbian singer. If you’re looking for a sweet serenade to get your date in the mood, you should definitely give “Constant Craving” a listen.
7. “Only a Girl” — Gia
At 18 years old, Gia came out about her first girl-on-girl experience with her lesbian love song “Only a Girl.” The singer acknowledged in an interview that the song meant a lot to her, saying, “Not only was it personal to me, but I felt as though the message of the song would be impactful in helping others to feel comfortable with their own sexuality.”
The song’s sensual lyrics are enough to get any woman’s heart racing as she admires someone on the dance floor. “Only a girl knows how a girl feels,” Gia sings. “Only a girl can make me feel this way.” One thing’s for sure, Gia’s not only a girl — she’s an LGBTQ leader with something important to say.
8. “Kiss That Counted” — Catie Curtis
“Kiss That Counted” is among the top lesbian love songs on our list because it’s easy to dance to and easy to love. The story of a first kiss is different for everyone, but many daters can relate to those nervous butterflies and electric energy just before your lips touch.
Maybe Catie Curtis was thinking about her partner of 17 years, Liz Marshall, when she composed the song because her sincerity shines through every word. In the song, the indie singer says she saw it coming, yet her crush’s kiss still overwhelmed her. It was a kiss that mattered and marked the start of a meaningful relationship. Sounds like the start of a great love song to me!
9. “I Kissed a Girl” — Jill Sobule
In 1995, a decade before Katy Perry sang about her bi-curious desires, Jill Sobule performed a cheeky and gutsy song called “I Kissed a Girl.” The pop rock hit tells the story of two women who aren’t satisfied by their men and end up in each other’s arms.
“I’m so glad I kissed a girl,” Jill sings. While the song’s overall tone is playful — Fabio even guest starred as the spurned male love interest in the music video — the subject matter is empowering because, particularly in the ‘90s, lesbian women haven’t always felt comfortable being open about kissing other chicks.
If you’re coming out as a lesbian for the first time, this song is for you. It’s a get-up-on-your-feet-and-dance kind of song with a simple message and a lighthearted feel. And, in case you were wondering, Jill doesn’t have any hard feelings about Katy Perry’s 2008 song. “I was actually, in a small way, happy to not be the ‘Kissed a Girl’ girl anymore,” Jill said in a Huffington Post interview.
10. “A Woman’s Love” — Alix Dobkin
In “A Woman’s Love,” folk singer Alix Dobkin sings about an unexpected love between two women. Feminist themes run through this sweet melody, originally released in 2010. The refrain “Because she’s a woman” is both a cause for surprise for the singer and the reason she’s fallen in love.
“It’s so easy to be her lover,” Alix sings, “because she’s a woman. I realize a woman’s place is my home.”
11. “Closer” — Tegan and Sara
Full of wonder and enthusiasm, “Closer” won Canadian pop stars Tegan and Sarah the Juno Award for Song of the Year in 2013. You might remember the song from “Glee” — Ryder and Jake sang it near the end of the fourth season.
Tegan described the song as a joyful anthem for anyone who wants to get closer to someone, not necessarily in a sexual sense. “Although I do imagine this would be an OK song to make out to,” she said to Rolling Stone magazine, “all I intended was to write something sweet that reminded the listener of a time before complicated relationships, drama, and heartbreak.”
If you’re hoping to get closer to an attractive woman, this song could be a good one to break the ice and get you both in the mood for romance.
12. “Damn I Wish I Was Your Lover” — Sophie B. Hawkins
“Damn I Wish I Was Your Lover” explores the thoughts of a woman who wants to heal someone’s broken heart. In the song, Sophie B. Hawkins, who considers herself an omnisexual, yearns to be the hero rescuing her crush from an abusive relationship. This rock song offers a frank entreaty, a battle cry, and a romantic accompaniment for lesbians who want to take care of each other.
13. “All the Things She Said” — t.A. T.u.
In 2002, Russian singers t.A. T.u. made waves and turned heads with “All the Things She Said.” The lustful song expresses the forbidden desires of young women who are willing to defy their families and societal norms because of their love for one another. It was a controversial and bold move to write such a suggestive song about a lesbian romance — and several organizations moved to ban the song — but you can’t get two talented women down.
Yulia Volkova, who was a member of t.A. T.u. when “All the things She Said” came out, said she felt the song sent a powerful message to the LGBTQ community. “People used to call us and say ‘Thank you. That helped us to come out.”
14. “Perfect” — Doria Roberts
Doria Roberts is a one-woman powerhouse. She sings. She plays guitar. She looks damn good. Her song “Perfect” is a playful, seductive, and memorable love song for lesbian couples. With alluring imagery, Doria sings about romancing a woman she just can’t get out of her head. This is a great song for a steamy date night with the woman of your dreams.
15. “Crimson and Clover” — Joan Jett
Yes, “Crimson and Clover” was originally performed in 1968 by Tommy James and the Shondells, but then Joan Jett and the Blackhearts got their hands on it in 1982 and suddenly it became a lesbian rock ballad. In fact, Joan’s cover reached number seven in the billboard charts.
“I don’t hardly know her,” Joan sings flirtatiously, “but I think I can love her.” Yowza.
The song “Crimson and Clover” certainly caught my attention in the movie “Battle of the Sexes” as Billie Jean King, played by Emma Stone, fell in love with her hairdresser. The ’60s song may not be openly about lesbian love, but it certainly strikes a chord with lesbian women.
16. “Girl Crush” — Little Big Town
You don’t often hear too many songs for lesbians in the country music genre, but “Girl Crush” dances on that line and hints at some girl-on-girl desires. While the singer seems to excuse her feelings by saying that she wants a woman to make a man jealous, the way she lingers on her girl crush’s lips, long blond hair, and beauty makes us wonder what’s really going on here.
“I got it real bad,” Karen Fairchild croons at the song’s opening. “Want everything she has. That smile and that midnight laugh she’s giving you now.”
17. “Come Over Here” — Sarah Bettens
Got your eye on someone sweet? You can tell them how you feel by putting Sarah Bettens’ “Come Over Here” on during a date. “Embrace the color in your life,” the song encourages before getting right to the point: “So why don’t you come over here?”
Sarah’s breathy and suggestive voice makes this song ideal for young lesbian lovers looking to spend a night in together.
18. “Drive” — Melissa Ferrick
The swinging beat of “Drive” gives lesbian women a tantalizing invitation to come a little closer to a special someone. Melissa Ferrick half-whispers and half-sings sultry lyrics about kissing, touching, and romancing a special lady all night long. This is a perfect song for those late-night love sessions.
“I’ll hold you up and drive you all night,” Melissa sings, “until you feel the daylight. That’s right.”
19. “Love and Affection” — Joan Armatrading
British singer-songwriter Joan Armatrading’s first hit was a lovey-dovey tune called “Love and Affection.” The silky ballad talks about a woman’s search for love and her frustration to feel something strong for someone out there.
In 1995, Melissa Etheridge performed a cover the song on VH1 alongside Joan Osborne, Paula Cole, and Jewel. Overall, the touching and relatable lyrics of “Love and Affection” made this song an instant classic.
20. “If It Isn’t Her” — Ani Difranco
“If It Isn’t Her” will get your foot tapping and your date sighing in no time. It’s a bouncy tune about “a girl-girl thing” with a lot of la-las that let the listener fill in the blanks. Bored by men, the women in the song come together because they want to be free to feel how they feel.
“Standing like John Wayne, she is full frame; she is center stage,” Ani sings. “You know I didn’t really notice when everything else disappeared, but as far as I’m concerned — if it isn’t her, it isn’t here.”
21. “Girls Like Girls” — Hayley Kiyoko
Last but not least, “Girls Like Girls” by Hayley Kiyoko is just pure fun. It’s more about stolen kisses than lifelong love. The bouncy beat and lighthearted lyrics make it a perfect choice for those moments when you want to mix things up with a date.
“Saw your face, heard your name, got to get with you,” the song’s chorus goes. “Girls like girls like boys do. Nothing new.”
Released in 2015, “Girls Like Girls” deserves a spot in the top lesbian songs of all time. This flirty song can help women let their guards down, explore their emotions, and enjoy some girl-on-girl action.
Rock On To Your Favorite Lesbian Love Song
What I love most about a good love song is its ability to immediately transport two people into a more romantic frame of mind. Within just a few crooning notes, you can remind yourselves what you enjoy about your relationship and why you fell for one another in the first place. If you ask me, there’s no faster way to get in the mood than playing a slow and soulful love song.
Hopefully, our list has given you plenty of songs to add to your date-night playlist so you can dance the night away in the arms of the one you care about most. These are songs by lesbians and for lesbians, which makes them perfect accompaniments for women in love. Enjoy!