If you’ve been single for a while (like can’t-remember-the-last-time-you-went-on-a-date while), trying to meet someone new, even in the smallest of towns, can feel daunting and frustrating — to say the least. But you’re not alone. We get tons of requests from women all over the country asking us how to meet other lesbians nearby, and we have a variety of helpful recommendations.
You no longer have to wonder where to meet “lesbians near me” because here are the five quickest and easiest ways — whether you’re looking online or offline.
1. Try Online Dating
Most of us know someone who’s found a date or partner online. In my case, I have a friend who’s in a new relationship with a great woman she was matched with on a dating site. No matter what you’re looking for, our top three picks, with their location-based matching and filtering features, will help you find it.
The sheer size of Match.com (13.3 million vistors a month) means you’ll find more lesbians near you than you’ll know what to do with. Zoosk.com is one of our favorite apps to meet lesbians because its integration with Facebook and Google+ make signup a breeze. Lesbians over 50 will do really well on OurTime.com, as it’s got the targeted demographic they’re looking for.
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2. Take Part in LGBT-Exclusive Activities
Whether it’s a film/music festival, pride rally, or kickball league, there are tons of lesbian- or LGBT-specific events going on all the time. MeetUp.com is a fantastic resource to find lesbians near you. Just choose your city, specify the type of meetup you want (e.g, “lesbian social”), and go!
3. Help Out at Local LGBT Nonprofits & Organizations
Volunteering for a local LGBT nonprofit, human rights organization, or charity is a win-win situation: you get to do something good for your community and be around people who have similar beliefs and values. Places like PFLAG have chapters in hundreds, if not thousands, of cities.
4. Go to Lesbian Bars and Clubs
If you don’t already know about the LGBT-friendly clubs and bars in your town, this is where your trusty friend Google comes in handy. Type in “lesbian bar [your city],” see what comes up, and check out the reviews to see which one would be best for you. Even if you’re not a big partier, you can still go out for low-key activities like trivia, battle of the bands, or karaoke. For some reason if you can’t find a lesbian bar or club, a lot of them will host lesbian get-togethers on certain nights, so take a look at their websites.
5. Have Your Friends Set You Up
No one knows the real you, as well as what you’re looking for in a date or partner, more than your friends do, so put them in the driver’s seat every now and then. From co-workers to family members to roller derby teammates, at least one of your friends has someone in mind who would be perfect for you. And don’t forget the power of yes. It’s simple: the more you get out there, the more people you’ll be introduced to and the more likely you are to meet lesbians near you.
Ready to Head Out?!
Now that you’ve got several different options to choose from, you can stop frustratingly asking yourself “How do I find single lesbians near me?” and start excitedly asking “Which route am I going to take first?” Go get em!
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