3 Details That are Getting You Rejected Online

Online Dating

3 Details That are Getting You Rejected Online

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

They say the devil is in the details and that’s one thing online dating has plenty of: details.

With so much information instantly available, details are often the fatal blow matches will use to discount you before they even get a chance to know your personality.

Here are three key things about you that matches are checking out and how you can navigate them.

1. Income.

Considering money is a top reason for divorce, it’s not a surprise it is also a sensitive subject in dating.

While your income is only one component of your financial health, it’s one online daters are paying attention to.

Many daters want to date someone whose financial status closely mirrors their own. This offers a level of comfort they can participate in the same lifestyle and activities without stress.

Not everyone is all about the Benjamins, but enough are that this section of a dating profile is paid close attention to.

What can you do? Don’t list your income. It’s not a requirement.

What don’t you do? Lie. It’s just going to lead to trouble later on.

“’Geographic undesirability’

is plaguing online daters.”

2. Age.

You’ve heard of job discrimination based on age, but it happens in online dating, too.

I have only heard of one major dating site restricting who you can contact based on age. (Plenty of Fish made it so you could not contact a match who wasn’t within 14 years of your own age.)

That being said, the notion that age is “just a number” doesn’t hold much water when it comes to online dating. Age matters because your age is a requirement and is boldly written in black and white.

The age range of people you are willing to date in comparison to your own age plays a big role in getting a date. It doesn’t matter if you look or feel 20 years different than your real age, people are going to respond to that bold number.

Men have a tendency to seek out women who are too young to be interested, and women often don’t give men who are more than a few years older a shot.

For best results, you’re going to need to be more reasonable on the age thing and try to take matches on a person-by-person basis.

 What you shouldn’t do? Lie. It’s just going to lead to trouble later on.

3. Location.

“Geographic undesirability” is plaguing online daters. If you live outside of where a person feels comfortable traveling to meet you, they will reject/ignore you.

This comes in two prongs:

1. It may be the name of the city/neighborhood where you live that gives off a certain connotation.

I know this is odd, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard daters remark on a match living in a neighborhood/borough/city that wasn’t filled with the type of people they’d be interested in.

2. The second prong is the actual mileage is too far or bothersome to span.

This is especially hard for those of you who live in remote areas because EVERYONE is far away. Or perhaps you travel to certain places for work and could feasibly date someone there.

It’s also a pain for those of you who aren’t tied to your location by your job, so you don’t care where your love is from.

Until a dating site implements a component that says, “I live here but I can also date people who live here,” there isn’t a whole lot you can do to combat this.

You can try to address it by mentioning it in your emails or profile so it doesn’t seem like as much of a chore to date.

Or you can stick to contacting people closer to you, as they are more likely to see what you’re about.

Have you noticed any details that stop you from pursuing someone who may have been interesting?

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