15 Best Sex Apps: Hookups, One-Night Stands & Casual Sex

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15 Best Sex Apps: Hookups, One-Night Stands & Casual Sex

Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews • 6/20/17

In the first “Sex and the City” movie, Samantha says this about sex: “I can’t color enough. I would color all day every day if I had my way. I would use every crayon in my box.” Samantha was never shy about her desires and never really went the traditional route in terms of relationships.

Sure, she was with Smith for five years and loved him very much, but in the end, that kind of life just wasn’t for her. The same goes for so many other people. About 21% of Americans have been in a non-monogamous relationship, 50% say “society is just as well off if people have priorities other than marriage and children,” and 12% are only looking for casual hookups.

These statistics show there’s a demand to be met, and sex-only apps are striving to meet it. Below we’ve ranked the 15 best options based on experience and reputation, price, sexual orientation, and several other factors.

Best | Gay | Lesbian | Free

Best Overall Sex App (#1-3)

We’re dessert first kind of people, so let’s start with our three favorite hookup apps of all time. No matter what kind of sexual encounter you’re interested in, within minutes, you’ll connect with someone (or someones) who’s interested in the same thing.

1. Adult Friend Finder

On Adult Friend Finder, if it’s a hookup you want, you don’t have to dance around the idea as you might on general dating apps. Here, you can be as upfront as you want. It doesn’t just have to be a hookup either. If you’re looking for an affair, or if you’re part of a couple and are looking for a third, Adult Friend Finder can help you find that, too.



Available on: iOS, Android

  • Relationships: Hookups Only
  • Match Sysytem: Filter by distance, gender, encounter
  • About the App: With 77 million members, Adult Friend Finder is one of the most popular apps for the sex community. It doesn't matter if you're single or part of a couple — you're welcome to search for sex buddies, threesomes, and other casual encounters. And you won't have to pay to do that as well as download the app, fill out a profile, and chat.
  • Browse Free: View Profiles Now

This free app can be found in the App Store and on Google Play, and you’ll be joining more than 77 million frisky singles from all over the world who can’t wait to meet, chat, and share videos with you. It won’t cost you anything to do so!

2. SaucyDates

SaucyDates says everything it means and means everything it says. Everything is 100% free, including two-way messaging, and every member is 100% real because profiles are manually approved by the team. In addition, the app provides content in a variety of ways, including a weekly newsletter, a blog, surveys, and social media that provide expert tips for how to move the interaction offline or avoid scammers, among other content.

3. iHookup

“Sparks fly” on iHookup, where physical chemistry is king. Set your preferred height, weight, eye color, hair color, and the like (as well as age, gender, sexual orientation, and location), and the app immediately gets to work for you. You’ll get numerous recommendations, and you can like the ones who catch your eye and pass on the ones who don’t.

Screenshot of the iHookup homepage

iHookup is iOS- and Android-friendly and doesn’t charge for registering, browsing, and flirting.

A finalist for Up-and-Coming Dating Site and Best Dating Site at the iDate Awards in 2012 and 2015, respectively, iHookup sets the bar high in this industry. And we’d attribute that to the fact that it was founded by a group of progressive women who wanted to make a female-friendly platform to combat stereotypes that say women don’t like to hook up as much as men do.

Best “Gay” Sex App (#4-6)

Most sex apps welcome singles of all sexual orientations, but to narrow down the field even further, you’ll want to use one that has a significant number of gay men. That’s what this section is dedicated to. Search profiles with the confidence that you’ll locate a hookup buddy in no time.

4. BeNaughty

More than 13.3 million people use BeNaughty every month, so your choices are practically endless. Not only can you filter by sexual orientation but also other important criteria like interests, zip code, and appearance. Don’t just take it from us, though. User Sam S. said, “What can I say? Ten minutes since I registered, and I’ve already got four messages from muscled gods. Won’t lie, it felt good.”



Available on: iOS, Android

  • Relationships: Casual Encounters
  • Match Sysytem: Sort profiles by zip code, appearance, more
  • About the App: BeNaughty has over 17 million members and gets more than 13.3 million monthly visits, making it among the most active hookup apps. Gay singles with hookups on their mind love using BeNaughy because they can filter out the straight singles and also filter out anyone who doesn't meet their preferred requirements for location, age, and appearance.
  • Browse Free: View Profiles Now

In terms of safety, BeNaughty ranks among the cream of the crop as well. The app, which is free on all iOS and Android devices, verifies every profile, uses SSL encryption to protect your personal and financial information, and has a 24/7 customer service team.

5. Grindr

Grindr was one of the first apps strictly for gay and bisexual men, and while you can find dates and relationships on it, we’d say it’s mostly for no-strings-attached activities. Similar to Tinder, you’ll swipe right if you like a guy and left if you don’t. Once someone also swipes right on you, chatting is enabled. Grindr’s matching system is heavily based on location, so you can basically get your sexy on anytime, anywhere, any day.

6. Surge

Rated 4.6 stars in the App Store and 4.5 stars on Google Play — not to mention its over 2 million registered users and 10 million monthly chats sent — Surge is extremely popular in the gay community. A lot of that has to do with its label-free mindset — you can be who you want to be and do what you want to do (with whomever you want to do it) without being put in a box.

Screenshot of the Surge homepage

Whether you’re a bear or show queen, Surge encourages you to look beyond labels and just be yourself.

Mr. Right Now is easy to find on Surge thanks to the usual features (e.g., live chat) as well as premium ones like being able to see who likes you, take back a swipe if you went the wrong way, and have your profile showcased in your city.

Best “Lesbian” Sex App (#7-9)

Now, it’s time to help the gay girls. On the next three apps, you don’t have to worry so much about men showing up in your search results when they’re not supposed to. They have some of the largest concentrations of lesbian women, and they take your criteria seriously.

7. Adult Friend Finder

Lesbian singles, couples, swingers, and groups flock to Adult Friend Finder because its size can’t be beat — 77 million+ members, 25.5 million+ monthly visitors, and 4.4 million+ connections. To get the kind of sexual experience you want, you’ve got to go where the numbers are.



Available on: iOS, Android

  • Relationships: Hookups Only
  • Match Sysytem: Filter by distance, gender, encounter
  • About the App: Adult Friend Finder may have slightly more males than females, but we know you'll find the right gay girl (or girls) in no time at all. It has a vast user base (over 77 million members), impressive search functionality (filter by sexual orientation and relationship status, among other things), a variety of communication options, and is iOS- and Android-friendly.
  • Browse Free: View Profiles Now

When we’re not talking about Adult Friend Finder’s size, we’re talking about its history, affordability, and services. The brand has been around since 1996, and the app offers free registration, profile creation, browsing, and communication (forums, webcams, etc.).

8. Feeld

Are you kinky? Are you curious? Are you open-minded? If you answered yes to even one of these questions, then Feeld could be the lesbian hookup app for you. Both singles and couples will feel right at home on Feeld because it provides a fun, judgment-free space to explore your sexual curiosities. Download it free via iTunes and Google, and then your journey begins.

9. Disckreet

Disckreet is a free app made for couples who want to take their mobile relationship to the next level. The partners are given two separate passcodes that can be used to unlock personal photos and videos they only want the other to see. The app uses military grade 256-bit AES encryption to do this.

Photo of the Disckreet homepage

Disckreet is a free couples sex app that allows partners to record and share personal photos and videos that can’t be seen by anyone else.

You can upload your content from your camera roll or take new photos and videos right then. Refinery 29 said Disckreet, “is definitely a super-useful app. If you’re looking to find a hookup for tonight, tomorrow, or this weekend, let’s be real, you’ve probably got a few choice photos that show off your bits.”

Best “Free” Sex Apps (#10-15)

Pretty much everything is better when it’s free, and if you agree or are on a budget, we’ve got the sex apps best-suited for your lifestyle. You won’t be breaking the bank on any of them — the only thing that could end up breaking is your back from too much sex, as Colin from “Love Actually” would say.

10. Blendr

By using GPS to create matches, Blendr has gained a user base of 200 million members from across the world and of various ages, genders, sexual orientations, races, religions, cultures, and backgrounds. This free hookup app is all about making breaking the ice as natural as possible. So part of the introduction phase includes virtual likes (tap the heart icon), virtual super likes (tap the beating heart icon), and virtual gifts as well as showing how many times you and someone have crossed paths.

11. Whiplr

Known as “the first and largest mobile community for kinksters,” Whiplr is an active community of submissives, doms, and other play partners as well as sexually aroused people, in general. Android and iPhone users can get the app for free, and it should only take a minute or two to create a profile.

Screenshot of the Whiplr homepage

From online photo competitions to an events calendar and private chats, the features on Whiplr make it easy to meet horny men and women.

The list of features Whiplr offers is impressive: video chat, secure phone calls, real-time messaging, group and private chats, private photo albums, private notes, online photo competitions, an events calendar, and animated icebreakers.

12. Down

For those who are down for getting down, we highly recommend Down (formerly Bang With Friends). The app couldn’t be any simpler: 1) Join through Facebook for free. 2) Anonymously choose the people you like. 3) Receive a notification when the feeling is mutual. Note: Just because Down has you sign up through Facebook doesn’t mean your friends will know you’re on the app. Plus, it will never post on your behalf.

13. Pure

Pure focuses on anonymity and spontaneity, arguably two of the most important things to look for in a sex app. Women never have to provide their credit card info to use Pure, and the process is really simple and quick.

Screenshot of the Pure homepage

Things happen quickly on Pure, with search results and messaging disappearing after an hour, so you’re encouraged to get offline ASAP.

Once you add your photo, it’ll appear in the app’s feed to people in your area for one hour, and then it will be deleted. You’ll also be shown photos of people who want to meet in your area. When you see someone you’re attracted to, hit Yes. If they’re attracted to you, too, a chat window will pop up. You have an hour to talk and arrange a meeting before the correspondence disappears. Pure is all about you being proactive!

14. Dirty Game Truth or Dare

Available for free via the App Store, Dirty Game Truth or Dare claims to have the biggest collection of dirty truth questions and dares — with new ones showing up every time you play. You can search by categories, including sex, foreplay, classic, icebreaker, romantic, and flirt, as well as choose the intensity level. Couples and groups will enjoy this unique sex app.

15. Pillow

Pillow‘s mission is to help couples “rekindle desire in your intimate relationship,” and the app accomplishes that by offering a free membership and bonding exercises that have been proven to work. The app is backed by experts like Esther Perel, bestselling author and psychotherapist, Rhiannon Kemp-Davies, sex educator, and Melissa Risso, marriage therapist.

Screenshot of the Pillow app

Couples can grow closer together, both sexually and mentally, by going through the bonding exercises Pillow provides.

Couples of any stage can use Pillow to learn more about showing appreciation, having distraction-free quality time, communicating effectively, expressing creativity, and alleviating stress.

A Relationship Isn’t Everyone’s Goal — That’s Where Sex Apps Come in Handy!

Samantha Jones isn’t just one of the best characters on “Sex and the City.” She’s also one of the best TV characters of all time. Samantha was expressing her sexuality without worrying about what others thought before that kind of attitude was widely accepted. If you want to focus on having a great sex life, and not on finding a relationship, at this time (or maybe ever), the 15 sex apps we’ve just taken you through have got your back.