According to a post on Quora, women receive anywhere from 20 to 130 messages a day on dating websites if their profile is new or recently updated. For women who’ve been on a site a while and haven’t made changes to their profile, that number is more like three to 15 a day.
The commenters also said a majority of those messages were sexual or just said “Hey” and that it’s extremely overwhelming and frustrating. Bumble launched in 2014 with a mission to put the power in women’s hands and make the dating process more fun and less stressful for both genders. Below are our thoughts on the app, and we’ve included three other apps that also provide a great experience, particularly for women.
Bumble — Women Have the Control, But You Have to Sign Up Through Facebook (4.3/5.0 Rating)
Bumble was founded in 2014 by Whitney Wolfe (who also co-founded Tinder), with the help of Badoo CEO Andrey Andreev and former Tinder employees Chris Gulczynski and Sarah Mick.
The app’s motto is “meet your honey,” whether that’s for networking, friendship, dating, or love, and its goal is to do away with outdated dating rules that say men have to be the ones to initiate.
To sign up, you’ll need to sync up your Facebook, which Bumble will use to pull information like your name, age, college, and job. This also helps to ensure everyone is who they say they are.
In terms of photos, you’re allowed to add up to six, and they can come from Facebook, your phone, or you can take a new one right then and there. The team does moderate photos for inappropriate content, so no shots of celebrities or you in your underwear or blocking your face.
As we mentioned, the biggest difference between Bumble and other dating apps is women have to send the first message. This doesn’t apply to same-sex connections, as either person can initiate.
Once a straight man and a straight woman mutually swipe right on each other (matches are called Bees), she has 24 hours to message him or the connection goes away. If he wants more time before replying, he can extend the deadline to another 24 hours, which also shows the woman that he’s interested.
However, he can only do this once a day and once for each connection unless he’s a paying member. Women with paid memberships also have the option to extend the deadline.
If you accidentally swiped left on someone, shake your phone to unlock the Backtrack feature. You’ll get three of these for free, and they’ll refill after three hours. You can earn more for free by spreading the word about Bumble on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter.
Bumble has more premium features, but you’ll have to upgrade your membership to access them. It costs $9.99 a month, but you’ll save money if you prepay for three or six months. The features include Beeline (see users who’ve already swiped right on you), Rematch (keep matches who should’ve expired), and Busybee (receive unlimited extends).
Since 2014, Bumble has received a lot of praise, especially from women. “App is cool and I like that I get to be the one to make first contact,” said Alisha Rocks in her review on Google Play. The main downside we’ve seen about Bumble is that some people don’t like the fact that they have to register via Facebook. Andy Finucan, who also wrote a review on Google Play, said:
“Not everyone wants a Facebook account, and anyone can create a fake Facebook account. So making it mandatory seems redundant. [The] premise seems to be sound. But [it’s] totally useless to people who don’t want to follow social media trends and sell their soul to the Facebook devil!”
3 Other Female-Friendly Dating Apps Besides Bumble
We’re fans of Bumble, but it’s not the only one out there that we’d recommend to women. There are three, in fact, and they have their own unique histories, teams, features, success stories, and pricing that you should consider.
Zoosk was created in 2007 and was one of the first dating apps on the market. It’s been paving the way for others like Bumble ever since. Integrated with Facebook and Google+, the app has a quick signup process that only takes a minute or so, and it’s 100% free. Unlike Bumble, though, you don’t have to use an existing social media profile to create a profile. You can just join via the homepage, the App Store, or Google Play.
Zoosk is the number one app for finding dates, and if you sync up your Google+ or Facebook account, you can have a profile in seconds. The app has 38 million members and will deliver matches to your inbox on a daily basis based on your behavior such as who you search for, like or don't like, and message. The Carousel is another section for matching (tap the heart if it's a yes and the X if it's a no).
|Gender Ratio||M: 48% | F: 52%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
Size is another thing the app has going for it. It’s been downloaded more than 30 million times and receives more than 3.8 million monthly visitors. What we think women will love most is the Carousel — which suggests matches to you, and then you can decide to like them (click the heart icon), pass on them (click the X icon), or save them for later (click the word maybe).
Match is the grandfather of online dating, having been founded in 1995. For the next 10 years, Match perfected its online dating experience for desktop and then mimicked that when it launched the app. Whether you use an Android or iOS device or a laptop, you can get Match for free.
Available via the App Store and Google Play, Match is a fantastic app for dates and relationships. With a user base of 30 million singles, Match is where you'll have a high chance of success. It's free to download, create a profile, search for and receive matches around the corner and across the world, find missed connections, "like" people, as well as send and receive winks.
|Gender Ratio||M: 49% | F: 51%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
In the graph above, you’ll notice Match gets over 13.5 million visitors on a monthly basis, but something also worth mentioning is it has over 30 million members in general. Provide your criteria (gender, age, location, sexual orientation, interests, etc.), and search for dates and partners on your own as well as receive them from Match.
Serious-minded daters flock to Elite Singles because of its large demographic of educated members — more than 80% have earned a bachelor’s, master’s, or doctorate degree. Every week, more than 165,000 people join the app, and every month, more than 2,500 find love through it.
Commitment-minded, professional daters will feel at home with Elite Singles, which can be downloaded for free in the App Store or Google Play. Not only is everyone looking for a long-term partner, but 80% of members hold a bachelor's, master's, or doctorate degree. Elite Singles sees 210,000 visitors and 2,500 users finding love every month, so it's one of the fastest growing and most reputable apps.
|Gender Ratio||M: 43% | F: 57%*|
|Available On||iOS, Android|
Once you join, you’re given a free membership that never expires and allows you to upload your information and photos, browse profiles, receive compatible profiles, and communicate in several ways (e.g., virtual winks).
Say Goodbye to Nude Pics & “Hey, babe” Thanks to Bumble!
You’d think receiving 20 to 130 messages a day would be exciting for women, but it becomes more of a job than anything. Plus, the good guys can be overlooked because they’re hidden in a sea of “Hi,” “What’s up?” and dick pics. Bumble strives to eradicate this problem by putting women in charge, and it seems to be working. But life is all about having choices, so if you’re going to sign up for Bumble, why not give some of these other apps a try? They’re all free, so it’s not really a gamble!