How to Find Love Online This Holiday Season

December 11, 2013
How to Find Love Online This Holiday Season

If the cheery sounds of holiday music are making you blue, I’m here to tell you that you absolutely can find someone wonderful to date during the holidays, with the goal of lasting through the next calendar year.

Breakup season means there are more new singles wanting to connect.

While it’s known to be breakup season (yes, there is an official Facebook breakup chart that shows relationship status changes move from “In a Relationship” to “Single” between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day), it’s also a time when singles really do want to connect.

In the Internet dating industry, we know this is the peak time for sign-ups. Couples are connecting and you’ll see new fresh faces when you log on. I suggest you log on more frequently so your profile will appear active and show up more often to others.

1. Online and offline dating are a winning combination.

Many online dating sites, such as, and, are hosting speed dating events, while many business networking groups are scheduling festive holiday parties for singles.

I highly recommend confirming your RSVP for as many parties you can fit on your calendar. There are plenty of singles hoping to connect over the holidays and you need to cast a very wide net.

2. Become a party girl and smile.

From cooking classes, to boat parade parties, find your favorite festive red dress and get in the mood for love. It’s the time of year when you can go online and out in public wearing an elf’s hat and you’ll be more approachable.

Take a fun, recent holiday party shot and add it to your online dating profile photos. This will show that your photos are recent and you’re fun to be around.

“Starting a relationship over the

holidays is more realistic than you think.”

3. Suggest a date idea online.

Many sites, such as with their date spark feature or How About We, where it’s required to suggest date ideas, are good places to find love online over the holidays.

If there’s a boat parade in your neighborhood, let a potential date know you’d like to go and ask if anyone is interested in joining you. If you need a date for a holiday party, write about it in the beginning of your profile.

If you have concert tickets to “The Nutcracker,” let a potential date know and see who else likes Tchaikovsky.

Think of your online dating profile like your Facebook page. If you’ve scored great tickets to something fun, you’d probably brag about it on Facebook or snap a photo to share on Instagram.

Use these social media sites to say you have an extra ticket and update your online dating profile as well. You just might be surprised to find there’s a digital crush who secretly wanted to ask you out.

4. Expand your zip code.

Some people really limit themselves to searching within a 10-mile radius, which I think is ridiculous.

Sure, there is more traffic during the holidays, but if someone told you the person you’d fall in love would be sitting next to you on an airplane and lived in another city, but you would be happy together for the rest of your life, would you expand your zip code?  I think so.

Starting a new relationship over the holidays is more realistic than you think.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace or wherever you may roam.

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Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and founder of She’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating and creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. Connect with Julie on Google+.

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2 Responses

    On line dating has been a little difficult. Women read my profile and enjoy the man I project which is truly me. However the height issue araises which is always is a problem for many. The inside of me is much better then most as I am told.
    I guess a lot of women are shallow :( I’m more of a man then many can ever imagine. Overall both the woman and myself miss out on what could be a beautiful outcome, but do not, just because of height.

      Julie Spira
      Julie Spira (

      Thanks for your comment. You don’t say what your height it and women do appreciate your honesty in representing your accurate height. What many don’t realize is that both men and women shrink over time. Your character will attract the right woman. Don’t give up hope. Not everyone is shallow, but many are. When you’re sitting across from the table with your date, your height won’t be noticeable, but your conversation will.

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