He Asked Me Out Again But is Seeing Other Women. What Do You Think?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I met a man on a dating site. He told me he has been seeing a woman for three or four months. We have had four good dates. He called me to go out again and reminded me he was seeing other women. We are seniors.

What do you think?

-Joan M. (Ohio)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Joan, you may be a wise senior but let me remind you that times have changed. We are in a high-supply sexual economy where women are giving away sex left, right and center. That doesn’t mean you should do what they are doing.

He thinks if he tells you he is seeing someone else, then he’s off the hook when you find out he’s actually seeing three other women.

If you’d like this man to give you more than an STD, you better take charge of this relationship. Tell him clearly that if he is seeing someone else, you don’t feel comfortable seeing him. His girlfriend may be willing to put up with a low-criteria relationship but you are not!

Remember, in business and in love, you don’t get what you deserve. You get what you negotiate.


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