He’s Moving to My Country. Should I See Where it Goes?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I am a 30-something American female who has recently become acquainted with a 40-something Danish male online. He was in the states on business and we met for drinks and hit it off. He has since gone back to DK, but we communicate via Skype, phone, etc.

His company is planning to send him to my city to open a new office. He seems to be interested and is moving very fast in terms of talking about our future.

I really like him but am a little wary. I’ve never dated someone from outside of the country. I’ve heard horror stories about scam artists from other places, but he seems legit. I have seen him in person, friended him on Facebook, Googled him and even found his profile on his company’s website.

Should I see where this goes or keep him at arm’s length?

-Cadee (New Orleans)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

It sounds like you’re being smart in checking to make sure who you’re talking to is who he says he is. Most people who get scammed or catfished don’t have the mindset you do, so being mindful will help keep you safe.

With that said, if you like this man and he is headed your way, you really don’t have to worry about much in terms of letting yourself get to know him and getting to be excited.

You’re not moving to DK and you’re not giving out bank account numbers or offering loans. Are you? So the pressure that’s put on the situation is one he created and one he has the responsibility of handling.

Finding love will always require taking some chances. He is bearing more of them. Try to enjoy.

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