How Can You Tell if the Person You’re Talking with is Real?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

How can you tell if the person you’re talking with is real and not a hoax?

-Jessie (Wisconsin)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Meet face to face in a public place soon after meeting online. And then continue to meet in person and by phone. Online relationships are not real, even if a real person is at the other end of a keyboard.


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