A Real Girl’s Expert Tips — How to Find a Girlfriend (Online)

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A Real Girl’s Expert Tips — How to Find a Girlfriend (Online)

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 10/16/15

So you’re ready to settle in with a nice girlfriend? Have you cast eyes to your computer wondering what your next move is? Fear not, your guide for how to find a girlfriend online is here.

In this article, we’ll take you through the 3 best online venues to meet a girl.

We’ve also included 5 tips for profile creation and messaging and 6 tips for the first date. Feel free to click the links above to jump ahead to a section.

1. Try Online Dating Sites

Online dating is now the norm for meeting people, so let me be the first to welcome you to a world after Ronald Reagan.

If this is the route you want to take, we have a list of 8 great dating sites to get you started:

Best Dating Sites of 2016

2) Zoosk

5 Tips Once You’ve Chosen a Dating Site

So what happens after you’ve signed up? Follow these 5 tips for online dating success:

1. Know What Kind of Woman You Want

Choose women who are near your age range, close in location, express similar interests, and have the same general level of attraction as yourself. I cannot stress these points enough. If you want a girlfriend who likes you for you, don’t deviate from this.

2. Make Your Profile Stand Out From the Rest

How do you do that? Promote the positive things about your personality. Try to be interesting and conversational. Show off your sense of humor, be original, and talk in specifics. Finally, make it clear you’re in it to win it — say you’re looking for a relationship.

Photo of unique online dating profile

Try to be interesting and conversational. Show off your sense of humor, be original, and talk in specifics.

We also have a really helpful article on how to write a dating profile, particularly a dating profile headline that will catch her eye.

3. Only Use the Best Pictures of Yourself

Choose or get quality and attractive pictures done of yourself. Dress sharp, whiten your teeth, and groom yourself. It will pay off for you — trust this.

For more specifics, check out our article on profile pictures that do and do not work.

4. Read Her Profile and Get to Know Her Before Reaching Out

Be diligent in your approach and make effort to actually get to know a girl. Ask her interesting questions about herself that have her sharing her opinions. Move to meet for a date after a series of emails back and forth. Just don’t be sexual!

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Be diligent in your approach and make effort to actually get to know a girl.

Need an example? Read our article on the first thing to say in online dating.

5. Stick With It and Don’t Give Up

The key to online dating is to not give up. There is someone out there looking for you, too, but you have to keep up the effort to find her!

2. Give Online Dating Apps a Shot

Since the goal is getting yourself a sweetie to curl up on the coach with, choose your dating app wisely. Try to use dating apps that offer more information about your date than just a picture and maybe a sentence. If she seems to good to be true, she’s probably a scam, so be mindful that there are bots and ads on dating apps.

Dating Apps That’ll Help You Find a Girlfriend Online

We’ve selected 4 awesome dating apps for meeting women, but for even more options, you might want to scroll through our article about the 12 best online dating apps.

1. Hinge

Based on connections you have via Facebook, Hinge gives a bit more information about your prospects than Tinder, such as religion, height, and interests. This approach of hinging friends of friends and providing more information makes it easier to find a girl to be your girlfriend.

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Hinge connects you with friends of friends, making it easier to find a girlfriend.

2. Bumble

Bumble is sort of like Tinder because you have to mutually match before you talk, but it requires women to make the first move. This takes a lot of pressure off you in pursuing women who don’t respond. Just make sure you keep moving it forward once she messages you.

3. Coffee Meets Bagel

This app is focused on delivering quality over quantity and, as such, limits the amount of matches it send you per day. There is also more information on your match than Tinder or Bumble, along with a bunch of other features.

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Coffee Meets Bagel focuses on on delivering quality over quantity.

4. Happ’n

At a festival? Beach? Bar? Convention? This gives you access to select and chat with mutually interested women you literally are crossing paths with. Happ’n may be limited in the info it gives you about the person, but what Happ’n wins at is showing you people who are right by you!

As with online dating sites, for any dating app make sure you have good pictures. Write clever tidbits about yourself. Be fun and try to make conversation wherein you’re genuinely interested. Then, after some pleasantries, move to meet in person for a date.

3. Make Use of Social Media

Believe it or not, a lot of couples have actually met on social media, so there’s no harm in utilizing something you probably already use.

Social Media Sites That’ll Help You Find a Girlfriend Online

While there are hundreds of social media sites out there, we’ve found the top 3 that are good for socializing with women who can turn into girlfriends.

1. Meetup.com

This is a fantastic resource for finding new social outlets. You can join groups devoted to singles or ones surrounding an interest or activity.

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Meetup.com is a fantastic resource for finding new social outlets.

From book clubs to hiking excursions to Origami lovers, join or create a group, go on the outings, and let magic happen in person. If you saw someone at an event you like, you can use Meetup.com to message them directly.

2. Facebook

Look for local groups around things that are important to you or interest you. Maybe it’s a FB page for your community or for animal shelter volunteers. Most importantly, interact with other members and get involved.

And don’t just limit your interactions to pretty faces. You never know who is reading and paying attention to what you do in these groups, so just be yourself and get to know new people.

You can also use Facebook to comb through your friends’ friends. See a cutie? Ask your friend if she is single. Most people don’t spend their days thinking about being matchmaker, so sometimes you can nudge them and find a connection.

3. LinkedIn

While it’s known for being a business networking site, LinkedIn offers a lot of opportunities to connect with people you are interested in. Join groups related to your industry and share insights, articles, and ideas with other members.

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Finding connections you’re linked to on LinkedIn gives you the unique ability to initiate contact with women on a professional or intellectual level.

Finding connections you’re linked to on LinkedIn gives you the unique ability to initiate contact with women on a professional or intellectual level, using an exchange of ideas and resources as an entry way to getting to talk to her. For many men, this is much easier than trying to directly flirt or hit on someone. If she engages with you reciprocally, ask to meet sometime for coffee or lunch.

6 Tips for Before, During, and After the First Date

Don’t worry — we’re not gonna just leaving you hanging after you’ve found the woman of your dreams online. Here are 6 tips for what to do before, during, and after that crucial first date.

  1. Give her options of places close to her and let her pick from them.
  2. Expect to pay, so keep it reasonable to what is comfortable to your budget. If it’s a walk and some frozen yogurt, that is totally acceptable. Yelp is your friend for no-fail date ideas.
  3. Remember the details of her profile and your conversations. Keep some ideas in the back of your mind handy about topics to discuss.
  4. If you liked her, tell her you’d like to see her again.
  5. Ask her to text you when she gets home safe.
  6. And repeat

Viola. Before you know it, you’ll have a +1.

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