I Have a New Profile On a Dating Site. How Do I Start?

November 9, 2012
I Have a New Profile On a Dating Site. How Do I Start?

Reader Question:

I am 65 years old and have not dated in years, not even a casual date. I am so lonely. I guess I don’t turn heads anymore. I don’t feel that I am that ugly. I have started my profile on one of the dating sites.

Should I write a “GRAYING’” profile? How do I start?

-Alberta (Alabama)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Glad you asked. There is an art to online dating. When writing your profile, be as honest and authentic as possible while still showcasing your assets. The biggest mistake is people try to be the person they think most people want. But then you end up being bland and not pleasing anyone.

It’s better to appear completely unattractive to 70 percent of the men online and really attractive to 30 percent than to be moderately attractive to 100 percent. Trying to please everyone means you’re not going to passionately energize anyone.

And one final thought for the over 50 crowd – your best bets for peer men are on OurTime.com. Take your photos in natural light doing the hobbies you’d like to share with a man. The photo doesn’t have to be glamorous, just friendly and real.


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Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013). Connect with her on Google+.

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3 Responses

    Congrats on the profile! I just started one myself for the first time and im completly terrified haha. I’m sure it will turn out wel for the both of us :)

    Same here, I got a new profile because my old one got hacked. I want to show that I’m more exciting and willing to meet new people. I almost considered a picture with more women around me, is that too much? I also want to mention my adventure like skydiving and rock climbing. Some spaces seem limited and I don’t want to ramble either.

      C. Price
      Cynthia (DatingAdvice.com)

      That’s great you tried out a new site, jimmyjams! I’d be careful with how many pictures you have next to a lot of women, that might intimidate a future match.

      Try to show your personality without having to prove you’re one way or another. Your outdoor activities sound fun! Try a picture from one of those events perhaps. If you’re looking for adventurous women, I’m sure they’ll notice by what you describe as a hobby/interest. Good luck!

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