I’ve Tried Two Dating Sites with No Spark. How Do I Get Back Out There?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I am going to be 50 this year. I have been divorced for more than 10 years and have only dated two men in these years. I have not been on a date in five years.

I go out with my ex-husband and my children on the weekends for family time.

I tried one or two dating sites, but no one has sparked my interest.

How do I get back out there again?

-Patricia (Florida)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Patricia,

I applaud your dedication to your children. Too many divorced parents drag their kids through their romantic trials and the poor kids are left shell-shocked by the revolving door of parental figures.

But it sounds like your kids are older and you are ready to treat yourself to a fulfilling adult relationship.

My biggest suggestion is to get involved in the world and you will meet like-minded men.

You might consider starting a business, getting involved with your church or temple or embarking on some community activity that puts you face to face with your peers. Join a gym, a wine tasting or travel club.

Particles in motion attract other particles in motion.

And remember to make yourself attractive. Men and women look for the same traits in mates: health, loyalty, kindness and intelligence. Improve your mind and your body to improve your mood and let the light shine from you.

You are lovable and deserve a great love in this life. And when you really believe that, deep down, you’ll send that message out to the world.


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