When you’re online dating, you should think of your profile as you would your résumé. It’s the first thing women are going to see, and they’re going to use it to determine if they want to hire you for the job of hookup, date, boyfriend, or husband. One false move and someone else more qualified might get the position.
You don’t have to figure it out all on your own, though. Our experts have compiled a list of the best online dating profile tips for men — with examples. Follow this advice and you’ll get an “interview” in no time.
1. The One With Few Grammar Mistakes
Using proper grammar and spelling everything correctly are the most important things you could do for your profile. If you’re not going to listen to any other tip in this article, at least listen to this one.
A study conducted by eHarmony and the writing app Grammarly says a man who has even two spelling mistakes in his profile is 14% less likely to receive a positive response from women. Before you finish your profile, run it through a spell checker, have someone else look it over, watch out for the red squiggle, or do whatever you have to do to make sure you’ve crossed your t’s and dotted your i’s.
2. The One With Good, Diverse Photos
Photos are a great complement to your text because they gives women a visual into your life, which means you want to choose photos wisely.
Usually, you should have one or two portraits, one full-body pic, and a few action ones like of you playing a sport or dressed up for Halloween. And, for the love of the internet, please no selfies, and definitely no bathroom selfies. Listen to the research, guys!
3. The One That’s Specific But Succinct
Traveling, watching movies, hanging out with friends — these are all activities you’ll find in a lot of dating profiles. It’s OK to say these things if they’re true, but if that’s all you say without adding anything specific, you won’t stand out.
Instead of writing that you love to travel, write about where you like to go and why (e.g., my go-to vacation spot is the Isle of Sky because that’s where my parents were married). Instead of simply stating that you enjoy watching movies, share one of your favorite experiences at the theater (e.g., you stood in line at the midnight showing of “Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire”). And so on.
Now, you don’t want your profile to look like a Tolstoy novel — a couple of paragraphs will probably do ya. Just make sure you break up long blocks of text because, apparently, the average attention span now stands at eight seconds, so you have a limited amount of time to get a woman’s attention.
4. The One That’s Funny
It’s way easier to tell someone else to be funny than it is to actually be funny, but you’re gonna want to be funny in your profile. Research conducted by eHarmony, which looked at over 12,000 online dating profiles, found funny is one of the most alluring words a man can use in his profile, as reported by women.
You don’t have to stress out about being Kevin Hart, Louis C.K., or [enter a comedian’s name here] funny. Be the kind of funny that works for you, and if a joke or sarcastic comment ever falls flat, just own up to it and laugh it off. Being a human who makes mistakes and admits it is more alluring than someone who tries to be Mr. Joe Cool all the time.
5. The One That Exudes Confidence
The experts say confidence online and offline will help you get dates, but you don’t want to come off as cocky.
Try to balance out your confident statements with something that’s self-deprecating or nice: “I’m awesome at my job because I work really hard, which is something I learned from my parents.”
6. The One That Doesn’t Talk About Sex
Unless you’re on a hookup site or want to be specific about your needs to weed out the incompatible women, more than likely you should avoid talking about sex.
Whether it’s the kind you like or the things you want to do to her or whatever, keep it below an R rating until you’ve at least gone on your first date and can tell how the chemistry is.
7. The One That Ends With a Call to Action
It may seem weird to end your profile with a CTA, but it’s a pretty decent idea if you think about it. Most women don’t initiate the messaging, so that means you’ll have to do it, or you can put something in your profile that will make them want to reach out to you.
It could be a question or a statement: “If you love LOTR, too, shoot me a message and we can debate the books vs. the movies!” or “Want to get to know me better? Swipe right!”
Your Profile is Like Your résumé — A Good One Will Get You the Job!
We’re guessing you wouldn’t show up to a job interview with a crappy résumé, so don’t do that with your dating profile. Your love life is just as important, and it’s worth taking some time on your profile before throwing any ol’ thing up. These are just a few online dating profile examples to attract women, but try some stuff out for yourself and see what works for you.
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