The Truth About Online Dating

Online Dating

The Truth About Online Dating

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

As the holidays pass behind us, online dating enters its busiest time of the year.

More people are joining online dating sites right now than at any other time. An estimated two million members will join the first week in January. I feel like I can hear the buzzing.

I know there are even more of you out there considering it. You’ve heard about it, but you’re still on the fence. You’re skeptical.

For the most part, you’ll take any excuse to not do online dating. This article is for you. I’m going to talk to you straight out. I’m not going to give you BS about online dating – just the good, the bad and the ugly.

These are the truths about online dating and you:

1. It’s weird.

It’s a bunch of single people talking about themselves and people they want to meet. You can’t hide that you’re single and looking when you’re on a dating site.

Everyone on an online dating site wishes they didn’t have to be on an online dating site. Every single person wishes they had met someone already in some fashion or another.

But what is so wrong about acknowledging that you’d like to meet someone? Why is this shameful? It’s a human instinct.

When you accept it, you become more available to making it happen for you.

2. It’s exciting and entertaining.

You get to search and sort through an entire spectrum of single people at your fingertips. You decide what it is you are looking for and just type it in.

You’ll learn a lot about folks you’ve never met and decide who you think might be a good fit for you. You have tons of information in front of you.

And when someone you’re interested in messages you, it’s a blast and you feel a rush of hope and excitement.

3. There are tons of ways to do it.

Choose to use an app on your phone that shows you people within a mile of you or a dating website devoted to farmers, a dating website for Ayn Rand fans or maybe a mainstream site with millions of members.

My point is there are thousands of different methods that are considered online dating. You can find one that best suits you.

“With so many people online, there

is every kind of person you can imagine.”

4. It’s work.

Online dating takes up time. You may think your love life is something that is just supposed to float together like astronauts in space guided by some fateful source.

It doesn’t just fall into your lap. Your life isn’t a Hallmark movie. People successful in online dating (or successful at anything) know nothing happens without effort, persistence and time commitment.

It may not be romantic, but it works.

5. Everyone is the same as you.

You may think you’re above online dating or that it’s OK for everyone else to do it. You don’t judge, but it’s just not something you’re willing to do personally.

Guess what? There are about 10 million people who had that exact same thought as you once had. Then they grew up.

They realized it’s better to meet someone online than to stay lonely and unhappy. They realized how much simpler it was than trolling the bar scene night after night.

People coupled up online don’t dwell on how much they wish they didn’t meet online. Instead, they live their lives in relationships and experience life with a partner.

6. It’s not perfect.

There are times you may find someone you like and they don’t respond. There are times you may be the one not responding.

You might meet some interesting characters. You might meet some really nice new friends or just have some pleasant conversations. It may even serve as a networking tool for you.

There are other ways to meet someone that have different pros and cons. Online dating is just another way to meet someone. And it’s a mixed bag, but in any mixed bag is a lot of good, too.

7. You only need one.

Of all the things weird, interesting and great about online dating, at the end of it all, all you need is to find one other person who does it for you.

We all know people in awesome couples who met online. Their lives are progressing and they are happy. It can be that way for you, too.

With so many people online, there is literally every kind of person you can imagine on online dating, even many with the same cynical view of the process as you. Go out and find them.

Are you still wondering if 2014 is the year to look for love online? What is holding you back?

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