We’ve Never Met in Person. Am I Wasting My Time?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I met a guy on a dating app almost a year ago. We still text, chat, Snapchat and use other social media communications, but we have never met in person.

We’re both in college living two hours apart. I/we have tried meeting but it never works out, mostly on his part.

Am I wasting my time?

-Roxy (Georgia)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

What’s fact is fact. It doesn’t seem like you’re going to do any dating if you live two hours apart and can’t even coordinate a single meeting within a year of communicating.

Obvious logistics aside, if you’re wasting your time depends on the value you’re placing on this person’s role in your life.

If you’re only interested in communicating with people with whom you can potentially date, then he is a waste of your time because it’s been almost a year and no date.

But if he’s just some guy you enjoy passing time with entertaining texts and snap chats, then no harm, no foul. Just don’t tie any emotions to that idea and make sure you date others.

Once you find a guy who is more geographically suitable to actually date, you won’t need Mr. Media Dater anymore.


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