“What Do His Texts Mean?!”

May 17, 2013
“What Do His Texts Mean?!”

Digital dating can be fun and flirty, but it also comes with a huge amount of anxiety when you don’t hear the other person’s voice.

Just how confused are you by the text messages he sends? What if your ex texts you out of nowhere? Is he looking to rekindle the spark? Does he have regrets about your breakup? Is he looking for a booty call?

In a recent article on Cosmopolitan, they featured the new site HeTexted.com, which caught my digital eye. The site allows you to post his text messages by uploading screenshots for their members to comment on.

The site has a group of guys who will tell the ladies exactly what a particular text means and will help them prevent making fools of themselves by sending multiple text messages. It’s a new form of text-therapy.

Typically, a woman wants to know if a guy is really interested in her or not. After she posts the text exchange, readers can vote in the following ways:

  1. He’s into you
  2. He’s not into you
  3. Verdict is still out

Example #1:

She texts: Hey you! Miss me?

He texts:  Hey! Where were you yesterday? And I’ll need a good explanation lol/jk

She texts: I was being a good girl…. Let’s see, I left work really late, bought tires for my car, went jogging, made dinner, watched a show and went to bed. Where were you?

He texts: All right, all right. I’ll let it slide.

She’s wondering: How into me can he really be? We live almost 2,000 miles away from each other. He sometimes just drops off the face of the Earth. He hasn’t had a girlfriend since we used to hang out in years. Oh, he is super hot with an amazing body. Please help! I need a sign.


“Relying solely on text may put

you in the digital doghouse.”

The voters said:

  • He’s into you: 17
  • He’s not into you: 0
  • Verdict is still out: 2

Example #2:

He texts: Mornings like this remind me of mornings with you (=

She’s wondering: He broke up with me about two months ago and he’s back with his ex-girlfriend now. I can’t tell if he’s just messing with me or what! This is one of three texts like this he’s sent me in the last couple weeks, all of them talking about things the remind him of us…almost like he misses us.

The voters said:

  • He’s into you: 13
  • He’s not into you: 13
  • Verdict is still out: 2

Have you ever read more into a text message or been confused by the exchange?

IMHO, if this has happened to you, pick up the phone and call the other person. Relying solely on text may put you in the digital doghouse.

Photo source: sheknows.com.

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating and creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. Connect with Julie on Google+.

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5 Responses

    so what’s the advice here?
    “don’t fish for compliments/excuses” and “be careful what you text an ex”

    I’m a friggin expert.

      i think she was just trying to talke about a new site that’s probably pretty helpful for some people. i know i’ve often had trouble understand what a guy’s text means. one minute he’ll be texting you a whole story about how much he misses you and and wants to see you then he’ll go days without talking or just say “hey” what they hell does just hey mean? i think girlst tend to over think texts and things and guys are just pretty simple but i know a friend of mine who is a dude and he really looks to deeply into a “whats up” text. i’m just sayin

        Julie Spira
        Julie Spira (DatingAdvice.com)

        Thanks for the comments. Texting can be confusing to most. If you don’t hear the sound of someone’s voice, we often come to conclusions about a relationship status and it can cause anxiety.

        If you’re not sure if you’re on the same digital page and you receive a text message, pick up the phone and thank the person for the text. You’ll know soon enough if he’s into you or not.

    i have used site before and i dont think it works u feel crazy cuz all the users give u so many dif opinins u don’t know who 2 beleive i asked what does “want 2 hang?” text mean and every1 said dif things its all 2 much

      Julie Spira
      Julie Spira (DatingAdvice.com)

      Some people prefer sending text messages. Others get upset if someone doesn’t respond within 30 minutes thinking they’ve been rejected. Sometimes people are busy and they just aren’t near their phones. There will always be multiple opinions to the digital text message and the meaning it may or may not reflect. The site is a fun way to get opinions from your digital network. It replaces the old days of calling your girlfriends and agonizing over a voicemail message.

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