Where Are the Lesbians? They Are Online!

February 23, 2013
Where Are the Lesbians? They Are Online!

You’re a single lesbian and you want a relationship. You want a date with a single lesbian and you’re wondering where the heck is she?

Well, she’s online. Yes, online dating sites are the best places to find single lesbians.

Sure, you can meet gay girls other places, but are you?

When was the last time you got a woman’s number while at a bar, softball game, potluck or meetup? And how often does that happen?

So if you’re being honest, you haven’t gotten a single number in the last five years and you haven’t asked anyone out at a venue where there might be single lesbians.

That’s my point, gay girls! The single lesbians are online.

If you’re not doing online dating, you are missing the biggest and easiest opportunity you have to get a date and find love.

There are free dating sites and paid sites, but you’ve got to have a profile that is up and running.

You need to have good pictures of yourself that are fairly recent. Don’t post a picture that is more than six months old and make sure at least one is a full-body shot.

It doesn’t matter if that makes you nervous, what you want is someone to know what you really look like. If that lesbian shows up for a date with you, she’s liking what she sees whatever you look like.


“Online dating is now the most

legitimate place to meet single lesbians.”

There are hundreds of thousands of lesbians online.

What are you waiting for? And why are you waiting?

Online dating is now the most legitimate place to meet single lesbians you are ever going to find. Every single woman out there is single and wants a relationship.

If you are at a bar or a meetup event, you don’t know who is single and you don’t know who wants to date.

When you are online looking at the local ladies, there is no question.

If she has a profile up on a dating site, she wants to date. That’s awesome and amazing news, isn’t it?

There is never a reason to not have a profile up on an online dating site. If you don’t, today is the right day to get one posted.

Fill out all of the information. Answer all the questions. Write a profile that isn’t too long and isn’t too short.

Include details about what you like and do in life and please keep it positive. No one likes a whiner or a cry baby.

So are we clear? Do you have a dating profile up yet? Have you got a question about online dating? Let us know in the comments section below.

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Mary G. Malia, founder of Gay Girl Dating Coach, is a certified singles coach, strategic intervention coach and author of the book "The Gay Girl’s Guide to Avoid the 14 Dating Traps." She’s known as the leading resource and expert for lesbians who want to move past the barriers to finding love and lasting relationships. Connect with Mary on Google+.

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4 Responses

    Is it best to join a general dating site or one just for lesbians? I don’t want to have to keep filtering through people unless the lesbian-only sites are quality women. Feels like a toss up

      Hi Tammie,
      Here’s the deal – do a search and see if the site you’ve selected has a good number of women in your area. If the site you chose only has 5 profiles you won’t be spending much time looking.

      Big name sites are usually pretty good. They have the right filters (woman seeking woman) and the search results you get are generally just women. I find once in a while a guys profile shows up and I just block it. Simple and easy to do.

      Start with using two sites, no more than that. If you’re not having success connecting with women after a few weeks then switch to another site.

      And good luck!! Mary – Your Gay Girl Dating Coach.

    I think the general ones are fine, once you say what you’re interested in, it won’t be a long filtering process…

      C. Price
      Cynthia Price (DatingAdvice.com)

      Kellyanne makes a great point. The filtering options on most dating sites leave it seamless to start meeting the right people. You may have a different sense of community within a niche site but I say try them both out! Most sites offer a small free trial, might as well take advantage of it!

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