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|Hayley Matthews • 12/04/17|
Shayan Zadeh and Alex Mehr founded Zoosk in 2007, and it’s now one of the most popular names in the dating industry. With 38 million members and available in over 80 countries and 25 languages, Zoosk is also one of the first dating websites to have an app version — which has been downloaded 30 million times from the App Store and Google Play.
While Zoosk is already providing a great experience, there are always ways to add to it. Whether you want to take your profile to the next level, write a killer first message, or are just getting started and need advice, you’ll find it all here.
It all begins with the signup, of course. Since Zoosk is integrated with Facebook and Google+, it will only take you a few seconds. If you don’t have a Facebook or Google+ account, or don’t want to use it, you can join the good old-fashioned way. Either way, these are the three steps you’ll take.
There are two ways to get Zoosk — go to the homepage and fill out the fields on the right-hand side, or go to the App Store or Google Play on your phone or tablet. The former is good if you prefer dating from your desktop, while the latter is good if you prefer handheld dating and dating on the go.
No matter if you register for Zoosk via desktop or mobile, you’re automatically given a free account that will last a lifetime. Zoosk does have paid accounts (as low as $12.49 a month), and you can opt into one if you want by going to your account settings.
Below is a snippet of what you can expect on Zoosk:
Relationships: Casual Dates, Deep Relationships
Match System: Search, plus daily match suggestions
Browse Free: View Photos Now
|User Base||Gender Ratio||Popularity (Visits/Mo.)||
|3.8 Million*||Start Zoosk for FREE|
As you can see, Zoosk is open to singles of all genders, sexual orientations, ethnicities, religions, cultures, and backgrounds. You can find whatever you’re looking for as well: hookups, dates, relationships, or marriage. The only limitation, if we’d even call it that, is you have to be at least 18.
More than half of people lie on their dating profiles — you don’t want to be one of them. No one will benefit by lying or making even small exaggerations (you’d have to come clean eventually, or your date could find out and get pissed). So be truthful about your qualities, characteristics, hobbies, career, current relationship status, lifestyle — all of it.
Another reason you want to be completely honest is Zoosk uses this information to suggest matches the site believes are the most compatible. If you’re adding zeroes to your salary or subtracting years from your age, you’re only going to get matched with people for whom you have to put up a facade.
What your welcome mat is to your home, your profile is to your dating life — it’s one of the first things people will see, and it sets the tone. Zoosk makes it easy to create a profile that showcases your wants and needs and what you’re about, but here are five tips you should keep in mind just to make sure you have all your bases covered.
We’ve said it before, and we’ll say it again and again — using poor grammar and having spelling errors in your profile and messages are some of the worst things you could do in online dating. Even one misplaced comma and one misspelled word means you’re 14% less likely to get a response.
Zoosk allows you to upload several photos, so add as many as you can and try to mix them up. You wouldn’t be impressed if someone you were checking out only had one pic or two headshots, right? Do your best to impress, and it’s not that hard to do.
If you have a pet, post a photo of you two together. If you’ve gone skydiving and have a crazy photo from that day, include it. If you have a full-body shot of you on the beach, don’t leave it out. If you have a nice portrait, show it off.
While you’re being honest about yourself in your profile, you should also add more details to facts and comments that could come off as generic. Zoosk gives you enough room to do so!
For outdoor lovers, write about why you love the outdoors and your top activities (e.g., “my dad always took me camping, so I try to do that every few months.”). For music buffs, talk about the best show you’ve ever seen and if you play an instrument (e.g., “I first heard the Beatles when I was 15, and I wanted to be George Harrison so bad that I got a guitar and practiced ‘While My Guitar Gently Weeps’ every night.”).
The point is not to make blanket statements like “I love to travel,” “Going to the movies is my favorite thing to do,” or “I’m a workout junkie.” You’ve got to give people the WHY if you want them to respond to you or reach out on their own.
Half of your profile is about you, and the other half is about the type of person you’re interested in. Having preferences is a must if you want to have success online, but be careful about going too far. It’s not like you’re trying to come off demanding by mentioning your likes and dealbreakers, but people don’t know that. Most people only take one-tenth of a second to form an opinion about someone, so you have to do what you can to make it a good opinion.
The best way to do this is to leave out the surface-level stuff and focus on the deeper things that really matter to you. At the end of the day, ask yourself if it’s a big deal that a future date or partner is over 5’5″ when you prefer shorter girls, likes sports instead of the arts, or has short hair but you’re into long hair. You’ll probably find that it’s not a big deal. Then ask yourself if it’s a big deal if he or she is also vegetarian, Christian, or wants children. You might find that those are bigger deals.
Even though Zoosk will deliver matches to you every day, your dating profile isn’t something you should set and forget like a crockpot. Keeping it fresh will attract new singles to you, and it’ll help you appear higher in search results. All you have to do is swap out a photo, add some more information to your Story section, or tweak your parameters a little bit (adding more miles to your ideal distance, widening your ideal age range, etc.). Try doing this once a week and see how things change for you.
If your profile is like your home’s welcome mat, then your first message to a match is like your home’s colors and decorations (yes, I’m still sticking with this metaphor). The paint, artwork, furniture, flowers, etc. you choose to use will give people a better idea of who you are. What you choose to say in a first message will do the same.
Unless your goal is to send as many messages as you can, we’d highly recommend not looking at people’s main profile photo, deciding they’re hot, and then sending a “Hey, love your photo!” It’s doubtful that it’ll get you anywhere.
If you want responses that’ll lead somewhere, you’re better off doing your research about the person (it only takes a minute or two to read their profile), looking for something that catches your eye, and bringing that up in the message. The why is equally important here. Why did you like their photo? “Saw the pic of you on the water in Hawaii. I’m an avid surfer as well! You prefer longboards?” Why does it matter to you that they’re Buddhist? “I studied abroad in China during college, and that’s where I discovered Buddhism. How did you get into it?” And so on.
I think it’s safe to say most people are pretty much over sleazy pick-up lines. Now, there are ones that aren’t sleazy and that work. Whether you want to use a pick-up line or not, the main point is to be authentic in your message. Like Linus’ pumpkin patch, you want there to be “nothing but sincerity as far as the eye can see.”
If you’re nervous, admit it (“Pick-up lines make me get all awkward, but here goes…”). If you don’t know what to say, that’s what you say (“I’m honestly not quite sure what to say, but I was really drawn to your profile, especially your love of volunteering. What’s your favorite charity?”).
Humor is an attractive quality, and science has shown that even using the word funny in online dating is a great thing to do. And it’s not just coming out and saying “I’m a funny guy (or girl).” It could even be something like “I’m not Kevin Hart funny, but I do have this one story about the time I…” Find the humor that works for you — it could be sarcasm, self-deprecating, commentary, or anything else.
Another quality research has found to be helpful in online dating is confidence. It’s OK to love who you are, where you’re at in life, and the achievements you’ve had.
However, you do want to watch out for confidence turning into cockiness. Think “I’m the only one in my family who went to college — PhD from Harvard, in fact. Now I’m making more than any of them combined.” vs. “No one in my family was able to go to college, so I worked really hard to get my degree and make them proud. I see you studied psych, too. Where did you go?”
You’ll notice most of the examples in this section have a question at the end, and that’s not an accident. Simply telling someone you like their profile or think they’re pretty or handsome doesn’t make them want to respond. If they do respond, it might just be a “Thanks!” And then you’re stuck having to come up with another message. Ending your messages with a call to action is a great way to get a meaningful conversation going. It’s a three-parter: 1) Mention something you saw in their profile. 2) Make the connection between that and yourself with specifics. 3) Ask them something else about themselves.
Zoosk is a streamlined dating site and app, so it really doesn’t take that much effort on your end to have a good time and make a lot of connections. However, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do everything you can to find your perfect match as well. Following even a few of these tips should improve your results. You’ll see!
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